(Closed) Regrets

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I totally understand!  I am getting married Sunday (eep!), and while I’m so excited, there are a couple things I wish I had time to change.

1)I wish I would have gotten a different dress.  The one I picked is really pretty on me, but I had originally wanted a lace dress… and I still kinda do. 

2)I wish more of our friends our age could have made the wedding.  Some of our friends are graduating college the day before, some couldn’t come because of the economy/jobs, and our best friends wanted to spend Mother’s Day with their mom this year.  I am a little sad that most of our wedding is going to be people twice our age (even though all of them are super fun).

3)I wish I would’ve been more sneaky about my Fi’s groom’s gift.  I engraved his ring for him, and he heard the phone conversation when they called to tell me it was ready.  🙁  He’s pretending he didn’t hear it, and he doesn’t know what it says, but I wish I would have ignored that call and let them leave a message instead.

Anyway, the important thing is that I’m getting married.  Woo-hoo!  It’s time to get excited!

Post # 4
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14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I"m going through that and my wedding’s 7 aweeks away! Wish I could do this, do that, change this, change that, less people, mored people, etc etc. Destination, change venue, different food, different time, longer….blah

It never ends! Important thing: you’re getting married soon! 

Post # 5
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699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think that everyone thinks those types of thoughts regarding some aspect of their wedding! I am a perfectionist and it has been hard for me to just let things go sometimes (like when making my invitations I had to keep saying "no one knows what the others look like. They are fine")

I’m not going to sit here and say "I’m sure everything is perfect" but I will say that I hope the little things you don’t like don’t overshadow your day. And it sounds like to me that you are already thinking that and have a good perspective on that. It will be a wonderful day and I am excited for you! Only a few more weeks left till you are MRS. Amy M!

 

Post # 7
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2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have the same #1 and #3 regrets and my wedding is still 6.5 weeks away

 Mostly, I just wish I would’ve had the guts to have a smaller wedding and not worry about offending people.  Now our wedding is stretching the budget, will be quite cramped at our venue, and we’ll have so many people to greet, I don’t know how much time we’ll have to enjoy it. I would chop 60-80 people off the list in a heartbeat if it wasn’t too late.

Post # 8
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35 posts
Newbee

The weeks leading up to the wedding are harsh. I was stressed out and started second guessing every decision I have made. BUT on that day, NONE of those things matters. Because the day turned out more beautiful then I could have ever imagined. And all I can remember is how happy we both were…and still are. And I’m sure you will too!

Post # 9
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I regret not picking a bigger venue. I love it and it was GOING to be just right for us, but with the guest list ballooning out of control (thanks Mom, Mother-In-Law, & stepmother!) it is going to be much too crowded. Oh well, nothing can be done now except to hope for a few more regret RSVPs to show up (I know, that’s awful) and hope for good weather so people can hang out on the porch/patio area.

Post # 10
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558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I started having regrets about my wedding- and it was still 9 months off! There were too many guests, our budget was already ripping at the seams (and we hadn’t even figured in flowers or tuxes or alcohol yet!!!!) and I constantly had either my mother or my grandmother in my ear about things (why did you pick that date, if you don’t invite so-and-so they’ll be offended, your cousin invited so-and-so to his wedding, so you have to invite them to yours, why would you ever do DIY invites?… and on… and on…) that I stopped it before it became a horrible monstrosity that I couldn’t control. We moved the wedding date from January 2010 to this August, are inviting only family to the ceremony, and cutting our guest list for the reception in HALF. I finally realized that this is MY day, and no one else’s, and I really don’t care if my grandmother’s widowed brother-in-law whom I’ve never met gets offended if I don’t invite him, or if my mom thinks roses are "the" wedding flower and I really want daisies. Oh the list goes on. All I can say now is that I’m excited about my wedding now, and it’s going to be perfect no matter what, because at the end of the day, I will be married to the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. And that’s ALL that really matters.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I just want to say thanks for being so open and honest as to post this..for your regrets can help those of us marrying a little later on and we sure could use some more "been there done that" wisdom and kindness.

Best wishes and much love to all newlyweds here and to the very soon brides to be!!!

Post # 13
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I wish we would have had a courthouse wedding with a reception at a local restaurant.  At our wedding, there are only going to be about 10 guests who will dance (out of 125!) and at second look, our place isn’t all that great.  

I would, however, keep my photographer.  She’s amazing and definitely the best wedding related purchase I’ve made. 

Post # 14
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2143 posts
Buzzing bee

I think I would have eloped… It would have probably saved us a lot of money and I could have gone some place tropical

I may or may not have had a longer engagement. While I REALLY want to be married in May, and not have waited until 2010, I wasn’t able to go dress shopping with my mom, and I barely went dress shopping at all, which so far has been about my greatest regret. 

I’m sure after the weddig I’ll have more regrets, because some of them I’m just kind of waiting on to see how it turns out lol

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