(Closed) Resentful

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would give it to him in small doses.  Instead of saying ‘What flowers should we have?”, show him examples of a few centerpieces that he can choose from.  Guys do not get into the details like we do and by giving them too many options, you are just overloading them and making it hard to make a decision.

Post # 4
Member
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

He cares, he really does. He just doesn’t care about living and breathing wedding planning like the us ladies here 🙂

I recommend not discussing details everyday. Pick 1 time to sit down and go through some stuff, then take a break. Guys just don’t really get into it the same way we do.

He obviously loves you very much (he proposed, right?) but his idea of a wedding may mean “We’re spending the rest of our lives together” whereas brides think, “What colors, dress, flowers, etc, etc”

Talk about the big stuff, set aside the small stuff to save for talking with your girls or the us.

It really is just a guy thing.

Post # 5
Member
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I really wouldn’t worry about it, when you two said you would plan your wedding toether, he probably had a different idea of what ‘planning’ a wedding is than you do.

You think, every single detail.  He thinks, picking a venue, tasting food, honeymoon planning, and that’s about it.  It’s not that he doesn’t want to marry you, it’s that he doesn’t care if you use garden roses or peonies in your bouquet. Just a guy thing I think.

Post # 6
Member
2867 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Most guys don’t care about the wedding so long as the people they want are there and there’s good food.

I’d say if you try and involve him in everything you’ll just continue to be frustrated. I’d involve him in major decisions. Find a venue you like (or two) then have him come see it before you book it. Same with invites – I had my Fiance look over my final draft to make sure he liked the wording. Go ahead and set up a tasting and just ask him to come.

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