- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2016
My SO has been spreading rumers that we’d get engaged in a “year or 2.” As has been common this weekend, I’m not sure how to feel about this.
The definite pro is that he’s telling people! We went to a friend’s birthday this weekend and he told one of my friends that’s when it would happen. Then today he was with his brother and sister in law and he told them the same thing. Plus he keeps telling me that. Not like rubbing it in, but when it happens to come up in conversation (he’s moving next week so our future has come up a whole lot this weekend).
The con is that a year or 2 is not exactly a timeline. Especially considering he said a year or two almost exactly a year ago. We’re not really in any rush, especially because my finances are tight, but I’m the type of person who likes to plan things out in advance. In a way I’d rather him tell me concretely that it’s 2 years (or later) than be wishy washy on 1-2 years. I just like to know when things will happen (side bar – our future 2 years from now is sort of unplannable. I will finish my coursework but need to go on internship with a high probability of it being out of state. He would be moving with me. That’s a big change so I would like to know what my engaged/married status would be at that point).
He has made it plenty clear that he wants it to be a surprise. He doesn’t want me to know when or how or with what lol I think that he actually thinks a “year or 2” is already too much for me to know lol
What I can’t figure out is if maybe he’s trying to throw me off. I wouldn’t normally think that because he’s terrible with time and matching up the fact that I have 2 more years of school and that if he wants to get married before I go on internship he would need to start planning the proposal ASAP lol Sometimes I think he needs a year or 2 to realize that we’ve been together “that long” (as in long enough to get engaged lol – nearly 4 years). On the other hand, he’s said “a year or 2” at least 4-5 times this weekend. He’s NEVER talked about us in the future that often and close together lol So part of me is wondering if he’s been thinking about it more (which I think is pretty obvious), but also maybe trying to overcompensate by pretending he hasn’t and that it’s still far away.
Or I’m just crazy and overthinking everything lol
p.s.: I wish the bee had an automatic spellchecker so I wouldn’t have to edit my post 3 times.