(Closed) Settling

posted 5 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

The difference between easy and settling is this: Easy: is achieved without a lot of effort which provide fewer difficulties. Settling: is deciding to reach an agreement. I hope this helps you, you have to listen to the voice deep inside and determine if it is worth it for you to maintain the relationship.

Post # 4
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think maybe you guys shouldn’t set a specific time frame on it then. Just a personal opinion, becuase I also think that if you took that pressure off, you can focus on the relationship and not mentally debating back and forth if it’s “too soon” the “one” etc. It sounds like you both have a good thing going for you. Don’t let your mothers words scare you out of it, my mom said the same thing to me, and I stood my ground and said this man is going to be around he is what I want and he’s perfect for me, so either get on board or be quiet, and that changed her perspective because I told her I wasn’t settling.

Post # 6
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

only you can answer the question if you’re settling or not, or if he’s “the one” or not.  How would you feel if your SO was worried he was settling with you?  Sometimes it helps to think about the flip side of something like this…

Post # 7
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183 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@theKTbug:  I think his support and telling you he’ll wait until your comfortable, just solidifies that he is your man! It’s okay not to be ready right away even if he is the one, sometimes there’s other things in life, such as the 2 of you finishing master’s degrees and mba’s that come first.

Don’t worry about it being an easy thing to find your guy! That’s how it feels, well it did for me anyway, lol.

Post # 8
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482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@theKTbug:  If you feel like you haven’t dated enough guys to settle down then the only solution is to date more guys. Which (most likely) means breaking off your current relationship. But it does sounds like you’re a worrier and maybe overthinking things. If you want to be married and have kids with this man then I wouldn’t call it settling… actually I would call it really lucky that you didn’t have to date a million assholes before finding a good guy!

Post # 9
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1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@theKTbug:  +1000

@emmalyn:  +1000 totally.. I had to kiss a lot frog until I found my prince….I almost got warts thank God he showed because I would have ended up in a cave having my meals delivered because I would have scared the public. hahaha

Post # 10
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482 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@niasg1:  Yeah I was just going to become a lesbian but then I found my bf ๐Ÿ™‚ haha

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