(Closed) Showers

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I don’t know I am in the same boat. I’m not having one.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Great question. I have no idea but I am looking forward to mine. I don’t like being the center of attention but I love that I will have my family and great friends with me.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

I am pretty sure it is to shower the bride with gifts for the home, because traditionally, you stayed with your parents until you got married and needed some stuff in order to start a household.  Tradition pretty much is the reason we have them today…and people love to celebrate good things…the world is going through some tough times…if throwing a shower for you makes someone in your life a bit happier…I say don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

The purpose of a wedding shower is a way to honor the bride (or groom if having it together; "jack and jill showers") by "showering" her with lots of gifts, blessings, and good wishes. I think its a time where all those planning the bridal shower for the bride, can arrange where the bride can have a good time, pamper the bride, and make her feel special. It is also a way for the bride to get her mind off of all the stressful planning and details of her wedding and just enjoy the celebration of her upcoming marriage with her family and friends. Hope this helps

—Mary at http://www.simplyuniqueweddingsandevents.com

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I think that they are trying to be respectful by making sure that they are including all the things that you would want to make your shower special. But I can understand where you’re coming from when you just want someone to just put it together and be done with it! The bridal shower is not supposed to be more stressful than your wedding but if it is then tell them to do whatever and leave it at that since you don’t have any specific request for your shower. Hang in there hun. When is your wedding date?

—Mary

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Traditionally a bridal shower is women only, and should only include those closest to you. According to Miss Manners its typically no more than 20 people. It’s usually the MOH’s role to plan it, but sometimes the mothers will throw the bride one instead/as well. I originally didnt want one either, but now that I know I’m having one I’m pretty excited about seeing my friends & family and hanging out for a day.

My shower’s going to be pretty low key with snacks, lunch wraps and cake. Hopefully outdoors, weather permitting, and a game or two.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I let my mom throw me one because it makes her feel involved in the whole wedding process and lets her brag to her friends about how her "little girl is getting married". That’s all mothers want anyway. It makes her so happy to do it, she’s almost giddy. I have afeelings whoever is throwing you the shower doesn’t want to dissappoint you, thats why they’re asking all the questions. I handed my mom a contact sheet for the people I wanted to invite and told her I want to be surprised so she stopped asking questions.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My shower is actually a surprise. My Mom had recruited the help of my great friends, my Future Mother-In-Law, and my sister to set-up the party. I actually have no say in what goes on with the shower in terms of planning. I gave her the wedding guest list and requested that there be Puerto Rican food and that is all the involvement I have. I kind of wish I had more say but honestly I am truly thankful that I have one less thing to worry about. I have enough on my plate with planning this wedding. I am really excited about it!

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