Post # 1
I hate cigarette smoke a lot. In fact, I would probably get extremely angry if I saw someone smoking at my wedding or even found butts around the next day. The problem is, we are having an outdoor wedding at my mom’s house in an area where a lot of people smoke. I’m wondering what the etiquette is on making sure everyone knows that when I say “no smoking” I am serious. Also it seems a little weird to put up no smoking signs but I can’t think of any other ideas. please help!
Post # 3
I feel exactly the same way as you do, please don’t invade my airspace with your nasty smoke please 🙂
Maybe you can section off a part of the venue far away (and not upwind) from the rest of it for the smokers. Then place cute signs and notices in the programs and on the tables that state (nicely, I guess) that if they feel the need to smoke they may do it in X area.
Its really the best compromise I can think of without being outright rude (although they are the rude ones for clogging your lovely air space 😉 )
Post # 4
I think babyboo has the right approach. If you provide an alternative location to smoke, you are being accomodating, so people should respect that. If someone doesn’t, you are within your rights to ask them to go to that spot.
Post # 5
I agree with designating a smoking area. Maybe you could put it in a far corner of your mom’s yard and make sure to provide ashtrays to discourage stray butts.
Post # 6
Is there any way i could have no smoking or would that really upset people?
Post # 7
I would definitely want a no smoking wedding. Especially if it’s at your mom’s house. It isn’t a bar. I don’t know the best way to really convey that, unfortunately. Maybe even just word of mouth. But I think it would be rude of a smoker anyways to just be at a wedding and light up a cigarette. They wouldn’t be allowed to do that at a hotel ballroom or a more public venue.
Post # 8
I’m a smoker (trying hard to quit right now though!) and I know my limitations as to where and when it is appropriate to smoke a cigarette. If I were in your shoes, I’d set up a designated area (jordynrose’s approach) with chairs and ashtrays in another area of the yard. It seems to me that typically smokers congregate together when they see other smokers lighting up. You could possibly ask someone you know to have the first cigarette in the designated area and when other smokers see, they’ll follow.
Post # 9
I think saying “No smoking at all” is a very different message from “Please smoke in the designated area.” Not allowing people to smoke at all will just make for a bunch of grumpy crabby guests with a nicotine fix. I think your best bet is just to designate an area and have a sand bucket available for people to dump their butts. You may also have people lighting cigars (it’s a special occasion after all) so you may want to at least give them somewhere to go to smoke.
Post # 10
I agree with MightySapphire. While ciggie smoke can be gross I dont think you should tell these adults that they arent allowed to smoke at all. If it were at a hotel or public venue there would still be somewhere for them to smoke. Designated area gets my vote!
Post # 11
my FIs family is TERRIBLE.. they smoke constantly… he and i both hate it but we know we can not expect them to make it through the day without lighting up. We are getting married on the beach and the reception is in a building right on the beach with a large porch.. if the weather is nice i want people to be able to hang out there (hell, I want to be able to go out there.. such a great photo spot… but i will not go out there if me and my dress are going to stink… i dont want all the smokers to just be out there the whole day. there are 2 doors to the porch so i am just going to see which way the wind is blowing that day and have one door for smokers and one for non. if we said “no smoking” FI’s mom and aunts would have to keep leaving the venue through the front door to smoke… guess we cant have that (according to him- haha)