Post # 32
Uh yes 100%. We had the “red dress auction” supposedly for heart and stroke research where random men bid on dates with us. Yeah, really safe and not sexist at all /sarc.
The recruiters literally told us the same things about girls who looked a certain way etc. A girl was not allowed into ours because she “would stand out like a sore thumb in pictures”. Yeah, she was black and overweight. Another was not allowed in because she became pregnant.
Also everyone was friggin cheating on everyone else. Half those girls ended up with chlamydia one year, no joke.
Post # 34
I was not. I did consider it but changed my mind after seeing first hand what a horrible time my friends had when trying to pledge (I say try because some of them quite half way because they hated it so much).
I’m sure it depends on the school and the sorority, but at my school it was not a good scene.
Post # 37
Oh, the Pikes at my school hold an annual Pike Bunny contest where all the sororities are expected to submit at least one contestant, who will be subjected to a bikini round, mud/jello/whipped cream wrestling, and a POPSICLE EATING CONTEST. Yes, really. I think the cover to that was $15 per person.
Also, another sorority chapter in my school was known for their signature halloween costume – every year, they would show up at a specific party all wearing firefighter costumes (read: red booty shorts, suspenders, red hats, and cropped yellow t-shirts) with the words “WE PUT OUT” on the front and “FIRE” on the back.
Post # 38
I’m so sad to see Bees with bad Greek experiences! I loved being Greek, wouldn’t have changed a thing.
I’m sure it very much depends on your school, though. My university is 70-80% Greek; being in a sorority or fraternity was what you did. As such, the sororities were a lot less exclusive and snobby. There really was a place for everyone.
Post # 39
lol but you didn’t go to one, so how would you know?
Post # 40
Another DZ here! Though I dropped my senior year (after my big and little both dropped!), so I’m teeechnically not a real alumna. But whatevs, I still had the sorority experience for three and a half years.
My experience was a mix of good and bad. I made some really great friends, but also experienced a lot of cattiness and racism. Overall, I would do it again and would definitely be fine with it if my kids wanted to rush–it’s a good way to find out about the world, I think. It made me interact with a lot of people outside of my bubble, that’s for sure.
Post # 42
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard
I used to totally make fun of sorority / fraternity people — I was an “art school freak” if that helps build a picture for you. but as an adult I’ve met plenty of people who were in the greek system who are pretty awesome. I try to not stereotype any type of person anymore.
a few years ago I read “Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororities”, which was pretty enjoyable. It tells both the good and the bad, and it talks about different kinds of sororities. It’s pretty interesting for a person who has absolutely no experience with this stuff. I have no idea how accurate the book actually is though.
Post # 43
Yes, this is promoting sisterhood and empowering women. -_-
The worst of it was the bloody social politics of it. Like mean girls and a game of thrones had a baby.
Post # 44
Zeta Tau Alpha alum here. It was one of the best decisions I ever made. I was never hazed AT ALL, made lifelong friends, learned excellent leadership skills, and just became an all around more well-rounded individual. I’m still involved in my local alumnae chapter, and I talk to many of my sisters on a regular basis. Four of them were in my bridal party. ZTA was (and still is) an incredibly important part of my life, and I know I’ll remember those years fondly forever.
Were there some girls I didn’t like? Hell yeah. Did I go out to a lot and sometimes make questionable decisions? Hell yeah. But those things would’ve been true in college, Greek life or not. My grades also improved, I got involved in breast cancer awareness, and I came out of my shell.
From the inside looking out you can’t explain it; from the outside looking in you can’t understand it. I can truly say my sorority experience helped me become the best possible version of myself.
Post # 45
That book is very inaccurate and highly sensationalized.Take everything in there with a heavy dose of salt.
I love how this thread has devolved into ‘let me tell you how awful Greek life is.’
Post # 46
Thankfully, I managed to avoid the trainwreck that was sororities in my college (and fresh out of all-girls high school, it wasn’t too hard to convince myself to avoid them).
Went to a sorority’s pizza party ona whim once, wound up holding candles and listening to chanting (and biting my tongue to keep from laughing, it was ridiculous)
Don’t think I would have passed my classes had I been – too many soroity girls flunked out of my very time-intensive program because their houses wouldn’t let them do schoolwork (and they didn’t have the balls to say crew them).
When we graduated, not a single woman graduating in my major was a part of a sorority.
Plus, the greek houses were often a site of muggings, city violence, and gang fights.
AND the greeks themselves, on several occasions, broke into local homes and stole things… once, I remember a fraternity broke in and stole a family’s christmas tree.
I remember another fraternity collecting money around the Holidays for Toys for Tots, but overhearing them saying that they were going to keep it for their chapter.
It was scummy and ruined my view on charities for a long time.
I don’t hold greek life in very high regard.