Post # 47
Because it’s really annoying when people assume that a sorority is just a group of women living together, which is exactly what you were just assuming …. It’s a lot bigger than that. It’s a concentrated group of women trying to improve themselves and each other with regards to specific requirements of the national organization. It wasn’t just a place to live and girls to live with …. so the fact that you lived with and went to school with just women is not a shared foundation with a sorority. A sorority is more like a really intense academic club lol.
The sorority women I lived with during my undergraduate career chose me and every other member based on the alignment of our scholastic qualifications and our personal values to the national set of standards for this sorority. They choose members based on the chapter’s goals, values, beliefs, etc. so it’s much more complicated than just living with other girls.
Post # 48
Also, just to throw in my general two cents, I was absolutely never once hazed at all and on my campus, the Greek GPA averages are significantly higher than non-Greek because of the substantial academic programs and requirements. I know it varies from campus to campus, but the “stupid sorority girl” stereotype drives me absolutely crazy
Post # 49
ME!!! I’m am a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.! Celebrating 100 years of Distinction this year founded in 1913!
I Love my Sorority! OO-OOP my Sorors!
Post # 50
First I went to community college while living at home, so there was no Greek life, and when I transferred for my last two years of school in a city where I didn’t know anyone, it didn’t occur to me to rush because I didn’t have the money. But during my first semester I became friends with a classmate who was in a sorority (Alpha Phi), and some of her sisters, and from my perspective they were sweet girls who knew how to party! I also made friends with some girls in the LGBT sorority, but they were very strict about not letting anyone under 21 drink and that didn’t appeal to me. 😛 My senior year there didn’t seem any point in joining a sorority. Now sometimes I wish I had joined one because I don’t have any close girl friends here, but it wouldn’t guarantee anything anyways.
I think sororities can be both good and bad, and that no one should be judged simply for their choice to join one.
Post # 51
+1 on the awfulness. I only made it a few weeks after rush. Chi Omega! lol not sure if I really count or not since I quit pretty soon
Post # 52
+1 to both your points.
I am President of my alumnae chapter and we have an active member who is in her 90s. That, my friends, is called loyalty and dedication to something bigger than yourself.
Post # 53
Nope. I’ve seen too much.
Post # 54
+1. I was just like you, and I still sometimes feel the judgemental side of me creep up when talking about greek life. But like you, I’ve meet plenty of people who were a part of it who are wonderful people. I’ve also seen a lot of good that comes from those organizations. Granted I’ve seen a LOT of bad, and there are examples in this thread.
There is a dark side, but there’s darkness to a lot of things. I don’t blame people at all for disliking greek life based on their terrible experiences. I would have the same reaction if I experienced those things. But from an outsiders position I try to remember that the actions of some don’t reflect all.
Post # 55
Just to add a little positivity to this thread, here’s how I incorporated ZTA into my wedding day. Two of my bridesmaids lent me their lavaliers and badges to pin to my bouquet. The second picture is me and my four sisters who were my bridesmaids. As @bellaluna290 said, it’s an involvement in something bigger than yourself.
Post # 56
Ughh I stayed for a year and a half. -_- fuuucck.
Post # 57
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent\'s backyard
I’ve never even seen the examples of the bad, because I stayed far far away from those groups in college, so I can’t really judge. I was a student caterer so I would up working a ton of formal greek events. they were generally very cool to me and my staff.
there is one thing I noticed though: I was a delivery driver for a while so I got to see the insides of the houses during regular days of the week. all of the sororities were really fancy and clean, and all of the fraternities were super messy, smelled like old beer and there would be crap like dirty laundry strewn everywhere. it was like straight out of the movies.
Post # 58
Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority Inc. Deep in my heart, I love my AKA.
Post # 59
Sororities and fraternities were banned at my alma mater (Suffolk U) so no.
Post # 60
Given that what I’ve heard about sororities is that they include traditions, sisterhood, and bonding over being a part of a group, then yes, a women’s college can provide a similar experience. It is not just because a bunch of women live together.
Post # 61
I was in Alpha Xi Delta. I graduated college almost 10 years ago and some of my sorority sisters are still my best friends to this day.
sorry to hear about your bad experience. What school was your chapter at?