Post # 62
I was in Sigma Sigma Sigma. It was terrible. I quit the sorority within four months of initiation… The “friends” I made never spoke to me again.. And I left because my grades had slipped and I became very sick and wasn’t able to attend the activities and events. I had to give up all my letter stuff (even the things I paid for). It left a bad taste in my mouth how I was treated by my “sisters.”
Post # 63
I’ll put it this way, I lived on the other side of a major landmark from the greek life at my university. Partying and what not is just not my scene, and I’ve always gotten along better with guys than girls. I did live in one of my university’s LLCs (living learning community) for two years which was an awesome experience. I lived in the honors dorms and I’ve never met so many people on my level or had so many intellectual and nerdy conversations at 3 AM before or since. I made a bunch of really good friends, but sometimes hanging out with them is like living the Big Bang Theory. I briefly considered joining the co ed honors frat my junior year, but I’m lazy and was poor.
Post # 64
I’m a DZ as well! Still involved actively as an Alumna.
Sad to read about the negative experiences some people have. Additionally, I think many people in this thread are themselves guilty of stereotyping and being close minded.
IMO: we’ve all read multiple stories on here about cheating husbands etc.. I don’t really see many people in those thread just straight up man bashing because one person (or they) had a negitive experience.
Post # 66
I was at Youngstown, OH. Everything was fine until my BFF decided I was trying to get with her crush and all hell broke loose. My little was in my wedding and I still talk to my big and GB. Friendly with others but not very close.
Post # 67
- Wedding: December 2016 - Presidio Log Cabin
As others have said, Greek life varies HUGELY depending on your school, area of the country, etc.
I am a Chi Omega and can honestly say it was one of the best decisions I made in college. My university was highly academic/engineering-focused and had a HUGE campus and population of students. Joining a greek organization was a way to find a network of like-minded women who had high academic and personal standards. I didn’t know ANYONE in a sorority at my school who experienced hazing – if anything, the greatest time was as a pledge because you were showered with gifts and made to feel extra loved! Throughout college my sorority provided me with academic support, professional and leadership development, and a social outlet to meet women who are now my closest friends. It’s amazing to know that I could move anywhere in the country and have an immediate connection to alumni groups (and it’s great for career networking).
Post # 68
No. It’s not something I ever had an interest in pursuing. I have always done a lot of volunteer work and been involved in many local organizations. I felt I had ample friendships and enrichment on my own. I’ve also marched to the beat of my own drummer for my whole life. Sorority life doesn’t really mix with that.
Post # 69
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I wasn’t in a sorority, but I was in APO, the service “fraternity”– my school only had 4 sororities, none of them were really my scene
Post # 70
Proud Phi Sigma Sigma alumna here – I had some of the best times of my life with my sisters and a bunch of us still get together pretty often.
Post # 71
I was an athlete, I guess I could have technically rushed a sorority but being a part of a team was a great experience. My team was more like a family and I am still close with about 90% of my team and my coaches have remained mentors and integral people in my life.
Post # 72
I’m a Delta Gamma and have DG & KKG bridesmaids!
Becoming a DG was honestly one of the best decisions I could have made when I went to school. It became a place to not only meet life long friends, but it empowered me. I truly believe that I am a stronger more successful woman because of my time spent being greek in college. I am still active in an alum group and have found it to be just as rewarding. I wouldn’t trade my experience for anything in the world.
Post # 73
I would be willing to bet if you ventured outside of what Jezebel & Gawker report on our organizations you would find the majority of greek women working to truly do good. I understand the stereotype out there – but please keep in mind that the good stuff usually doesn’t make headlines. Feel good, non-juicy stories don’t equal pageviews.
Post # 74
I think I’m the only Tri-Delt (Delta Delta Delta) here!
The Tri-Delts (cuz everyone else has!) were known as the party and easy girls sorority at my university. Yes, there were some girls like that, but there are girls like that everywhere – the majority of my sisters were hard working college students.
I personally didn’t encounter any hazing. There were a couple of girls that were mean to some of the pledges, but our president made it clear they were not allowed to treat the pledges badly. I did party, just like everyone else, but I also had a steady boyfriend in college so I didn’t go out as much as some others did. Some of the things we did were pretty lame, so I guess you can say I wasn’t your “typical” sorority chic.
Overall I didn’t have a bad experience. It was just something fun in college. I do have sorority sisters that I do keep in touch with but most of my close friends were not my sorority sisters. I think like everything, there’s good and bad about it.
Post # 75
Alpha Chi Omega here! It’s so sad to see so many women here on this thread with such negative experiences 🙁 Our philanthropy is the Fight Against Domestic Violence, which I was so proud to help such a needed cause. We never felt there was anything sexist about our greek life system at our school.
We also were enforced to call each other “ladies” and “Women” as opposed to girls, bc we were over 18 and adults, which honestly I liked. A lot of times the sorority was ran like a business too (which was my only gripe with it, it got political in that sense). But otherwise, I’m so happy I did it. DH was in a fraternity at my college too, we met through greek life before I rushed! Happily Ever After <3
Post # 76
- Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID
@btothez: I know it depends on the university, and the greek organization, and I know there are always exceptions (a few of whom I’m friends with), but I have no interest in being in that type of group. I don’t need to pay for my friends.