(Closed) Traumatizing

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

It will get better when you drop out of that wedding.  Your bride is acting very entitled and spoiled and she doesn’t appreciate your honesty.  Let her and wedding go.  No is not a bad word.

Post # 4
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@hermom:  +1!!!!!!  She does sound spoiled in the worst way.

Post # 5
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

What is the purpose of a “surprise” shower if she is the one requesting it? She sounds pretty spoiled, I can’t believe you got demoted just for expressing your opinion about the dresses. Good luck with everything, sounds like eyou’re going to need it!

Post # 6
1483 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You’ve lasted longer than I would have. I’d have punted myself from the wedding party after the bride either A. Demoted me, or B. informed me I was throwing her a surprise shower at a fancy restaurant with 40 guests.

Post # 7
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

LEAVE!!  No one would blame you, tell her you have shingles, or narcolepsy, ANYTHING, just get out now!

Oh, and then slap her, 40 guests at a bridal shower?  It’s not an appetizer for the wedding gifts, geez!

Post # 8
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@kitty126:  Um, I think it depends on the bride (I’m not making my girls do anything except for show up).  You’re a saint compared to me, I probably would’ve smacked her several times already.

Post # 9
1430 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@housebee:   I agree. I’m asking my maids for their opinions on dresses and might take them out to a nice spa day (paid for by me) as gifts, but that’s it. I’d leave the wedding party and not look back.

Post # 10
2212 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m sorry you need to deal with all of this.  🙁  Why do you have to organize anything at all anymore since you’ve been demoted?  At this point, I would let the new Maid/Matron of Honor take over.

As for the bridal shower, you and the rest of the Bridal Party should let her know there isn’t the money for what she wants.  Lord.

Post # 11
3053 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

She’s being ridiculous. I don’t think it’s gonna get any better as the wedding gets closer =/ I think you should just peace out now. I would never be okay with being “demoted” ugh. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this =(

Post # 12
25 posts
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sounds like your bride has some unrealistic expectations.  I think some people get carried away in a fantasy land when they are planning their wedding.  I’m guilty of it myself!  If I were your friend, I would appreciate a reality check.  Are you up for it?  It might save a friendship and bring her back down to earth.

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