Post # 1
My Cousin, who I was close with up until I was 6 years old, and haven’t really spoken to often since then…. recently she posted on Twitter that she was hurt that she wasn’t a Bridesmaid and didn’t want to come to the wedding. My mother promptly called her mother and tried to discuss that we simply didn’t know she’d even want to be involved in the wedding. Her mother quickly explained she didn’t want to talk to either myself or my mom.
Now she’s saying [via her mother] that she’s been mad at me for 4 years… and that when I was back on the east coast recently for OUR GRANDMOTHER’S FUNERAL I didn’t pay her enough attention.
I know that often weddings may bring out extra stress in families, but any advice?
Post # 3
I don’t see why she would even think that she would be a bridesmaid when you haven’t been close for many many years. I know she is family but honestly you don’t need someone with moodyness like that in your wedding party! Especially if she can’t even tell you that she was mad at you for the past 4 years!
Post # 4
Who posts that nonsense on Twitter? Don’t they realize that it is quite public. I would say just ignore it. You don’t want her to be a part of the wedding if that’s what shes doing. I’m not sure why she’s been upset for 4 years but that’s quite immature to bring up at this time. I may have a different view as I have too many cousins to count but she doesn’t seem to be worth your worries. Just let her know (through your aunt if that’s all you can do) that the lines of communication are open if she ever wants to talk about it like an adult.
Post # 5
Just ignore her, I think she just wants to start up some drama. I kind of had a similar situation with a cousin of mine. She has always felt that we’re in competition so she’s always trying to one up me. However, I was completely unaware of this situation which has apparently been going on since we were 4 or 5 and I was “ALWAYS the princess and she was always the maid” until she called me out on it. I was like “Wha?!??? (insert confused face)” and then proceeded to tell me that was the reason I wasn’t one of her bridesmaids. Seriously who needs to watch soap operas with wedding drama.
Post # 6
Ignore her and your Aunt. And, since either of them don’t want to talk to you or your mom, take them up on their kind offer to avoid drama at your wedding and don’t send them an invitation either.
Post # 7
Thanks bees! I was thinking the same thing, I just wanted to be validated a little bit. I’m sure she’ll come around eventually but I’m glad this happened 9 months prior to the wedding date. Thanks for small miracles :o)
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Wow, that completely immature and ridiculous. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this! I have family members (very) similar to this and I know how hard it is. My only advice, like the others said, is to ignore it because you know you’re not doing anything wrong. They’re the ones being ridiculous.
Post # 9
ohhhh the things that ppl will say over the internet that they wont say in person. ignore her and don’t allow her to follow you on twitter… lol.
Post # 10
wow-yeah…the sound awful. i would just ignore them. also-if she’s been so mad at you why would she even want to be in your wedding? hellooo drama queen.
Post # 11
… she’s mad because you didn’t pay her enough attention at your grandmother’s funeral 4 years ago? Legitimately? Ignore this whole situation. Totally not worth the drama.