Post # 1
FMIL mother just sends an email out to the family and the friends, our wedding is in a month, she orginally RSVP no for the wedding, but then sends out an email and CC me and my Fiance saying to the family that she had no idea who was invited to the wedding and any kids that want come to let her know because they can go in her place. She never offered to help with the wedding costs, or anything for that matter but was so angry and caused a huge fight over her 60+ people she wanted on her guest list. We had compromised with her on some and she still was NOT happy. We are having an Adult reception only, my Fiance Uncles and Aunts have been pissed off at us and are not coming to the wedding because their kids were not invited. Oh well. Then that means you really don’t care enough to come.
First off, she was sent the FINAL list to go over and let us know if all addresses and name spelling was right, and secondly, if we said no kids, why the hell would you NOW, after all our RSVP were due back 2 weeks ago go and open that door about kids! and third, we aren’t even talking to her because all she has done in the last month is harrasse us, tell my Fiance that he is making a mistake and he will have regrets, that I am a terrible, awful person, and then she goes and does this!
Post # 3
I would hit “Reply All” and say something like,
“Dear Family members,
I am sorry for the preceding email. We are very thankful that so many of you have RSVPd that you will be able to attend the wedding. We would love to have children at the wedding but simply cannot due to space limitations (or whatever). Sorry for any confusion this email may have caused.”
Post # 4
I second @Caszos idea. Make sure she gets a copy of that email, too! There is NO need for that kind of behavior, and she should know it’s not ok and you guys won’t stand for it.
Post # 5
She is jerk, she loves to throw in “ettiquette” when she has NONE! She doesn’t have the first clue about ettiquette and how to act and behave.
Post # 6
yea that was childish of her to do that..
Post # 7
She sounds passive aggressive. Just trying to throw as many torpedoes at you as possible, while she still can. So sorry.
Post # 8
WOW. I love it when 50 years old act 15. What does your Fiance say about it?
Post # 9
My Fiance is disgusted with her, she is cut out of our life, he wants no part of her, he changed his cell phone and didn’t give her the new one. At this point she has completely embarrassed him, and hurt him and us that he said an apology isn’t going to cut it, it’s much deeper than that, we won’t ever get an apology but she will act and pretend that everything is fine and dandy and that everything is okay until she has another wacko moment. She has done this the last 7 months, one min she would lash out at us, call me names, and then she would try to be my best friend, when I finally stopped letting her do it, she would turn it around on me, she thinks she can treat you anywhich way and then when she wants to be nice and best friends, you need to act that way to her.
Post # 10
I second what Caszos says. Maybe even add something like “unfortunately while my mother has made a very generous offer, our venue cannot accomodate children for safety reasons and they will be turned away at the door.”