Post # 1
Okay, so I’m a bit upset and probably not rationally thinking this through. So I thought I’d turn to the wonderful people of WeddingBee to give me some advice.
So we invited 80 people. When we sent the invitations the numbers were a bit uneven but not by enough to really matter. Well, now that RSVPs are coming in, it’s so uneven it would be drastically noticable if we set the ceremony up the traditional “guests of the bride on this side, guests of the groom on the other side” way. If we did that it would pretty much look like I have no family or friends at all. I know who comes is really unimportant. Out of my 27 invited I can guarantee 15 people to show. Four of those are in the wedding. My FH’s guests make up the rest of that 80. Well, 4 of those are in the wedding. So….if everyone of his that was invited comes….extreme unbalance. So…what is the best way to make sure the seating is mostly equal (with the parents on the respective sides, though)? I don’t want one side of the church to be full of people and the other not to… I dunno what to do. I’m a month out and well, having my first meltdown. Any advice?
Post # 3
Not a problem. I never choose where to sit based on whether I know the bride or groom better. Have the ushers or coordinators or whoever works for the venue or is assigned to direct seating simply direct people left or right to get an even seating. But most people will probably figure out on their own that if the left is filled to sit on the right. If you’re getting married outside of a house-of-worship they’ll probably only put out as many seats as there are guests, eliminating the problem. If you’re getting married in a church or other space that has pews/benches to seat many more than 80 then have someone direct even seating.
Post # 4
Put out a cute little sign that says, “Don’t choose a side, just choose a seat!” I saw that once on here and loved the idea. 🙂
Post # 5
we’re having the same issue but my side is going to be the one that’s super full… I decided we’re putting close family in the front row on the side representing their family member and then people can sit where they like behind them. family or friends. Well have a certain amount of seats available so they’ll just have to sit wherever to fill them. that way the sides will end up being even, even if that’s not who they are there for… in the end theyre there for the couple anyway right, both sides!
Post # 6
@Juliepants: Love that idea!!
Post # 7
I have the same issues but in reverse. We have about the same number of guests as you, with about 65 (I’ve got a bigger family) on my side and 15 on his side. All the RSVPs aren’t in yet, but we aren’t doing seating sides. Don’t worry, it will all work out!
Post # 8
Thank you guys so much. It’s just really upsetting because I only picked family that said they were able to come for this reason. With almost 60 something people invited on his side and like, 27 on mine and only 15 on my side coming it’s kinda embarassing and looks like no one cares enough to show up. And honestly, it sort of feels like that too. I just don’t know how to make sure no one chooses a seat based on side. I guess I’ll have that sign thing and then inform the coordinator for the church that I don’t want anyone but parents, grandparents, and then siblings sitting on specific sides.