Post # 1
We are getting married at FI’s mom’s church, and I have only met the minister a few times but she seems really sweet and reasonable.
However she RSVP’d to the wedding including her young daughter who was not invited. She Responded via email so I wrote back via email politely explaining that we had decided not to invite children and that I was concerned that feelings would be hurt if her daughter attended. I asked her to respond to confirm that they would still be able to attend. I haven’t heard anything back from her, and in my less than 3 weeks til wedding crazy bride brain, I’m worried that she might be angry with me or offended. We are supposed to go in soon to finalize the ceremony, and I’m wondering if I should bring it up during the meeting, and if so what should I say to her?
Post # 3
How long has it been since you emailed her? Maybe she doesnt check her email often. Honestly I would probably pick up the phone and give her a call. I know that might be awkward, but it is the more polite thing to do to just say “I’m really sorry, I hope you aren’t offended, it’s just that we werent able to include our nieces/nephews/cousins/friends children so we dont want anyone to feel hurt” and the fact that her daughter would be the only child.. How old is her daughter?
Post # 4
Sometimes when people aren’t sure if they can bring an extra person, they RSVP for that person and assume the bride will let them know if it will be a problem; unfortunately that puts the bride in the uncomfortable position you’re in! More than likely, she’s not mad at all.
The final meeting sounds like a good time to bring it up. Just ask “in passing” whether she received your last email reply, and if so then reiterate that you’re sorry you couldn’t extend the invitation to her daughter and explain why again, and say you’d love to see her there if she can come though… and see what she says.
Post # 5
I would just bring it up at your meeting ‘hey, I just wanted to be sure you got my email about your RSVP….’
Post # 6
I would do as clarebee suggested and give her a call…you don’t want to drag this out, and you do want to be as respectful as possible. Call and clear the water so that your meeting in person isn’t awkward! However, do what makes you feel comfortable 🙂