Post # 1
My 2 FSILs, graciously offered to thrown me a bridal shower. Other than asking for a list of people to invite, they have kept me completely out of the loop in planning this thing, and told me that they wanted me to be surprised. Today I got a call from my sister, and the first thing she said when I answered was “9:30 AM?! are they F*ing kidding?” Apparently, my shower is at 9:30 in the morning, the day before Easter, two facts I had no idea about. First I was told months ago, it would be the saturday after Easter, which is what I had told most of my family and friends (and I, and they had all made arrangments for that date, to get off work and arrange for babysitters etc..). I never got a copy of the invite, so I didn’t know where, when or what day it was, until my sister called me, to bitch about it. I am a little irked that they changed the date on me, without telling me, and that they decided to have it so early in the morning. Most of the people coming will be driving 5 or 6 hours to come, and this makes it almost impossible to do a same day trip for any of them. I already know some of my friends have bowed out, because they can’t afford to stay in a hotel for the shower, and the wedding a few weeks later. Not to mention most of them have plans with their families for Easter weekend. I just feel a little let down, and feel like my shower is going to be a fiasco now. I don’t want to be confrontive with my FSILs, but I almost feel like I’ve been sabotaged. ::::sigh:::: ok, that was my vent for the day.
Post # 3
I’d talk to the FSILS and politely ask if the time can be pushed back a few hours. Of course, it would be inconvenient to call all the guests to inform them of the change, but less inconvenient than a 9:30 shower…
Post # 4
Holy cow, if I was a guest I would almost consider missing the shower if it was at 9:30 am (lazy of me I know, but if I have to wake up early every other day of the week, I at least want to sleep in a little on my weekends!)
Post # 6
9:30 is crazy early especially given that it’s a holiday weekend and most of your guests have to drive such long distances. I would talk to your FSILs or have your sister talk to them and see if the time or date can be changed. I would be so annoyed if they made these decisions and didn’t run them by me first.
Post # 7
Umm, you definitely have the right to be annoyed.
Post # 8
Wow… if a lot of your guests are making a 5-6 hour drive to get to the shower, that would put most of them at a 3AM (if not earlier!) wake up time in order to get ready.
Is there a way you can politely request that the shower starts a few hours later? It sounds like a LOT of guests would appreciate that. Even making the shower around noon might up the chances of making it more feasible for guests to get there without being entirely sleep deprived and exhausted.
Post # 9
I would def move it. 930…I barely make it classes that early O_O
Post # 10
Haha yeah… 9:30 AM on a weekend is my sleepy time lol. I would just be super polite and kind when you mention that because guests X, Y, Z are graciously driving 5-6 hours to come it is not super feasable for them (feasible? feasable? oh well, i’m only a teacher, lol). I feel like, you can’t NOT say something, ya know? 9:30 am!!? Lol
Post # 11
I’m sorry if my LOLing came out the wrong way, like I’m laughing at you. I don’t mean to make light of your dilemma, I just think you have one option here and that one option is to speak up. I absolutely think you have every right to be annoyed and I didn’t mean to be flippant about your dilemma. I have just NEVER heard of a shower this early before and it is perplexing.
Post # 12
I’m not lazy 🙂 and I wouldn’t come. I think you should ask your FSILs. maybe they didn’t think it thorugh about the travel time for a lot of the guests. At any rate, you could at least open the convo with the date change thing. I mean, they cleared the date with you months ago, right? you were spreading the word…. That’s not cool. 🙁 I’m sorry you even have to deal with this
Post # 13
I’d say something. That is ridiculous and does sound a bit rude to me. Maaaaybe they just didn’t think it through, but really when addressing invites they had to know that people were farther away and common sense should say 9:30 am is NOT normal for a shower. What the heck are they thinking?!
I’d definitely ask and push for it to be moved back. Granted I’m not afraid of a little confrontation when it is such an inconvenient thing they’ve done.
Ugh I can’t get over it – WHO DOES THAT?!
Post # 14
Am I the only one who doesn’t think 9:30 is early? lol Maybe I”m confused because I’m on toddler sleep time.
I do think it’s rude, though, considering your Out of Town guests. I would just address that when you talk to your hostesses. Just be honest! I’m sure they’ll understand that no one wants to make a 3am drive for a shower. Maybe they were just assuming those people didn’t want to come.
Post # 15
@les105: I mean it’s not early in general, but it seems oddly early for a wedding event that isn’t breakfast. Lol. I haven’t ever heard of showers being before noon, honestly.
Post # 16
Wow. I would definitely say something since it is not ok to change the date without informing you. Not to mention, all the work everyone has gone to to make travel arrangements for the following weekend. Plus, that is way too early for a Saturday event.