Post # 17
For me, I agree that having a baby changes everything, but it’s not about our day-to-day lives as much as it is about the extraordinary love I have for my daughter. The world is different now. I worry about things I wouldn’t have even thought of before, my daughter is the light of my life and I would absolutely do anything for her. I understand now how and why people don’t want to leave their kids and want to spend as much time with them as possible. My focus for 38 years was on only myself, and then Darling Husband. Now, the focus is all about our little girl and things that were once important to me, have faded to the background. My world is no longer about work, shopping, hanging out with friends, etc. I still do those things and enjoy them, but my world is now centered around my family. It is such a wonderful thing!
Post # 18
I think the biggest thing is that a baby changes your priorities- in a good way, and a way totally impossible to fully comprehend until it happens. And it also changes your sleep & sex habits 🙂 Other than that, I don’t feel like much has changed for us.
Post # 19
Like others have said here, the big change is the shift in priorities. When you become a parent, someone else’s needs are more important than your own.
Post # 20
A baby does change everything, but it is a gradual process, it does not happen the second the baby is born! Gone forever are the days of sleeping in late, taking off spontaneously for recreational activities, and most importantly – there is now someone whose needs are far more important than your own .I don’t know about you but I never stayed up all night with someone because they have an earache prior to becoming a mother.
What surprised me the most after became a parent is how concerned I became about everything. The risk of fire, the toxicity of household cleaners, the safety of furniture, other people’s germs when they came to visit, the right kinds of food, etc.
But like PPs have said, it’s not all bad! You may love your Fiance or Darling Husband, but you will never love anyone as completely as you do your child.
Post # 21
Thanks for the helpful insights! I think the fact that having a baby makes family a bigger priority is one of the reasons we’re so excited to add to our family. We feel very prepared to welcome a child into our family and for them to be the light of our life. We’ve tried to fully comprehend the challenges of parenting, but I’m certain there’s no way to really know until you’re “in the trenches”, so to speak, so we’re doing the best we can to prepare and educate ourselves, knowing that there will be so much more to learn everyday with our LO 🙂