Post # 1
Please be aware this is long! I called my mom on my way home from work today to tell her she needed to leave early so we could meet at the reception hall to finalize all the numbers, make final payment etc. When she answers she has my grandma conferenced in, which I thought nothing of. I hear my mom say, "are you going to tell her" to my grandma. Grandma then goes on to tell me that she recieved her monthly calendar from the church for the month of May today. She also says that my wedding is not written in there on May 16, which is a little weird b/c usually weddings are on there. So I just say ok, no big deal. She then goes on to tell me that there is a bake sale at the church, the day of my wedding!!!! A bake sale! I asked her what time, and she said 10 a.m. til 2 p.m. Are you kidding me?!?! My ceremony starts at 3 p.m. So my guest are going to be showing up with very limited parking, and everyone cleaning up for a bake sale??? That’s NOT how I pictured my wedding day. Anyways, my grandma goes on to tell me that the night of the rehersal, Friday, everyone will be there setting up for the bake sale. I just lost it! I just told my mom and my grandma, "I’m getting married at the church on May 16 at 3 p.m. and it has been on pastors schedule for well over a year! I will tell the bake sale people they have to leave, I don’t care!!! And I’m having my rehersal there at 5 on Friday, no ifs ands or buts!!!!!"
So what do I do now? I tried calling the church, but they close the office at 3. So I left a message for pastor and I sent him an e-mail. The sad part of this, is I think my Great Aunt is behind this! She has been a witch through out all the planning at the church! For the shower, she didn’t want to let us in on Friday night to start decorating for the shower on Saturday. My great aunt thinks she runs the place because she’s part of the womens guild, but so is my grandma!!! Anyways I went above her head and asked Pastor if we could come in Friday night and decorate, and he said yes no problem and handed me a key to lock up after we were done! Let’s just say my great aunt was NOT happy when she showed up early and saw how much was done already!!! She walked around adjusting the heat, and did a walk through the kitchen area, just shaking her head! UH! I really hope she didn’t do this to me! I hope pastor makes them cancel!!! I know it sounds selfish, but it’s just not how I pictured my wedding day.
Post # 3
i’m sorry to hear that! I hope they can re schedule!
Post # 4
I’m sorry that you’re having to deal with this, but if it’s over at 2, you should be fine. Guests usually arrive about 15-30 minutes early at the most, so that will give them time to clean up and be out of the way. I would be more worried that you aren’t on the schedule then about some cupcakes in your way. Good Luck!
Post # 5
I would continue to call and email the Pastor (or Pastor’s secretary) until you get them to promise to change the time, location, or date of the bake sale. Imo, since your wedding was scheduled way before the bake sale, they should accomodate you first. Even if they just moved it up an hour, it would make a big difference. I would be pretty upset about that, too. And I wouldn’t mention anything else to your great aunt; it seems like you should only talk to the person in charge because she is causing a lot of unnecessary drama.
Post # 6
That’s the funny thing though, I watched Pastor put it in his calendar. I also saw my information on the big calendar that is right outside the doors, that let’s everyone know, for the year what is coming up, this is the calendar I had to look at to make sure my date was available! So how was it missed to be put into the calendar that is mailed to all the members.
Post # 7
I would also see if you can get the bake sale moved up one hour to account for tear down. At my church there were weddings scheduled at 10, 2, and 5. It amounted to about a two-hour window between each wedding and it worked great. I had the 2 o’clock slot and didn’t see anyone from the previous wedding, and we left before anyone after us got there too (and we stayed until 4 p.m.).
Post # 8
If your grandmother plays a big role at the church, I would ask her to help you resolve this issue. The two of you should go to the church and personally talk to the pastor, if you do it face to face, this may help the pastor see how upset you are.
Something like a bake sale, IMO, is flexiable, so ask if they could switch to the following weekend, or perhaps have it changed from 10AM-1PM or 9AM-1PM. Explain your reasoning: that you want to ensure everyone has a place to park, that you want everything to be cleaned up, etc. You could also put a spin on it saying that you don’t want the church members that are overseeing the bake sell to be uncomfortable if your family is going to be setting up/guests arrive early. Say that you don’t want them to feel that they are in the way. That way the pastor will think you are thinking of others as well and trying to make it best for everyone 🙂