(Closed) A big rock on a young bride?

posted 9 years ago in Rings
Post # 32
1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

i dont think you are young at all! and if you can afford it go for it. you are the one that has to wear it everyday for the rest of your life so get what you love. the only downfall is people might assume its CZ or a moissanite.

Post # 33
1731 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Kitquist:  +1


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@theshannondee:  I don’t think you were being flashy or snobby at all. As you have already seen some people will judge you some in this thread have even done so.  Insterting things such as I think its too big or that’d be too bad if you couldn’t have a down payment on a house due to this.  (I have been guilty of the I think thats too big in other threads but those posters did come off as snobby in my opnion so I figured I would add my two cents.)  

Huge rocks tend to come with huge criticism to the point where I can only think of one thread on here with 2+ carat diamond “porn.”  Even one carats can come with criticism. I have a single diamond that is a over a carat and people at all my job called it a “rock” behind my back.  Which isnt so awful but its still kinda bitchy.  

Since your ring is big people will probably assume its fake but thats not necessarily a bad thing.  If people think its fake they will be less likely to try to rob you. (I’m hyper sentative about things like that because my mother’s ring was stolen and was about a carat like mine.)

As Kitquist stated it really doesn’t matter what your ring looks like someone will find something nasty to say about it.  Just relax and enjoy this time.  And your family should just lay off.  So what if you don’t follow the usual timeline for the family or get what they consider appripriate for jewelry.  Its your life not theirs be a trend setter!


Post # 34
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

My then Fiance family was always “poor” because of the poor choices they make all the time. When we got engaged they were all talking about how large the ring was. My side of the family wasll all talking at how small the ring was. You can’t please everybody. Once the wedding was over, nobody even notices it any more.

They will get over it, you should pick what you like to wear and what looks best on you.

Post # 35
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

A. It’s no ones buisness but yours

B. if you feel judged by others wait until the sun hits your ring and then blind the haters so they can no longer bare to look at the blinding bling. Then quickly change the subject. Enagament Rings have super powers you know 😉

C. GO FOR IT! Each to their own!

Post # 36
318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Go for it!! Im 23 my SO is older and we are looking in the 2 carat range (size 9)

Buy for you and not others!

Post # 37
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - Toronto, Ontario

they had their time to chose what they loved, which were dainty rings

and now its your and his turn to chose what you two love, larger ring

they shouldn’t care

i got my first promise ring from Fiance at 19, i’m now 23 and engaged planning to marry in spring (i’ll be 24) – to my parents im OLD because at 21 they were alredy finished their grad degrees, employed and marred and had me.

let the young generations live in the present!

Post # 38
2812 posts
Sugar bee

@GelaMac:  LOL!

OP I would say get the ring you want. You will receive snark whether the ring is big or small so who cares you’re the one who will be enjoying your ring in the end right??

Post # 39
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you guys can afford it, why not?

Honestly, no matter what stone you have, big, small, diamond, non diamond… etc people will always judge no matter what. 

Get whatever ring you like and rock it Smile

Post # 40
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@theshannondee:  I think it depends. Large diamonds aren’t necessarily the most expensive. If you have a 2.5 carat diamond that is a J or greater in color you may only be paying $5,000-8,000 for the rock. On the flip size you can pay $15,000+ It is a lot of money but isnt unheard of by any means.

I think people focus too much on the size of the diamond and not the other Cs, personally and always assume the bigger the more $$$. All in all if they give you crap about a big ring and being young tell them it is none of their business 😉

Post # 41
1699 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@GretaMae316:  good point, although don’t think even a “j” colored 2.5 carat diamond would be only $5-8K unless it had other issues or is clarity enhanced..

I do think younger brides/engagd girls with larger diamonds will have those who will figure its not a “real” diamond. Simulants such as cz/moissanite/and now amora gem have become so  common and are being set in valuable and real diamond settings.

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@theshannondee: OP, of course it shouldn’t matter what others think but sounds like it does matter to you (as it would to most) thus I would probably casually mention “diamond” when others admire it. For example, “wow beautiful ring”..”thanks am so happy with the diamond fiance chose..” etc. Identifiying what it is will stave off thoughts that its a simulant. People are willing to lie by omission/avoidance but often draw the line at telling a direct lie. (of course there are always exceptions!) LOL

Best wishes.

Post # 43
1699 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@luckylady3090:  thanks! It’s always nice to know the outcome!

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