Post # 1
I finally confided in my best friend this weekend that SO and I had talked about getting enaged and that I think it’ll be this year. I was expecting her to be super excited for me as we have talked about it previously and had always said that she would be in my wedding party. But instead she put a real downer on it saying how she didnt really see the point in getting married that her and her SO were prob not going to do it as they had much more important things they wanted to do and it was just a party.
I can’t work out whether she was just having a bad day, and is sick of hearing about weddings (a mutual friend gets married next month and she’s said she has 6 to go to in the next year) so maybe its just wedding over kill for her! I’d just hoped that she would be excited for me!
I’m sure when the time comes she’ll be happy for us I suppose it’s just a lot of speculation at the moment. I probably shouldn’t take it so much to heart!
Sorry needed to just get it off my chest!
Post # 3
Aaww I’m sorry that she put a damper on your excitement! Just give her the benefit of the doubt that she is having a bad day and may be going through wedding over kill!
i’m sure that she’ll be super happy for you when you do get engaged. ^_^
Here’s to hoping that it happens soon!
Post # 4
@RedBear: Based on my own experiences, I’m going to say that she might just be feeling left out. I’m sure she doesn’t mean to offend you, but she might be trying to make herself feel better (to an extent) by “defending” her choice to not be engaged/married. I think it’s difficult to be on either side of the engagement fence, so be sure to sensitive towards her reactions (without, of course, babying her).
Post # 5
I know a guy who went to 9 weddings in a year and decided he didnt want one. I dont think his SO was too pleased about that. But ya know, he was sick of them.
I have been through that as well where the thought of planning a wedding made me so anxious i decided i would want to elope. But my SO is very family oriented and would never do that. So i will have to plan one.
I wouldnt take it personal.
Post # 6
Maybe she’s jealous because her SO doesn’t want to marry her? Like when the other kids wouldn’t play with you, you went “Nah, I didn’t want to play with you anyway!”, even though you really did. She’s going “Nah, I didn’t want to get married anyway!”, but maybe she’s feeling really hurt inside?
Engagement is apparently a really touchy subject for her, so I’d avoid mentioning it again. I’m sure she’ll be pleased for you when it happens,but try not to rub her face in it too much.
Post # 7
It sucks when friends are sometimes unsupportive, but at the same time I feel bad for your friend. I’m sure her attitude is from a little of everything — she is probably down that you might be getting engaged soon, and she is not. She might also be down from the thought of things changing in your relationship, or the fact that it will be one more wedding that she will have to hear about.
Post # 8
That sucks! I know that some of my friends just don’t see marriage in their future yet or at all. Also, I wouldn’t go straight to the conclusion that she is jealous. I’m sure when the time comes to your engagement, your friend will be as excited for you! If she isn’t, we (waiting bee) will!
Post # 9
What did she say about YOU getting engaged? It seems like you are stuck on what she said about her wedding plans.
Post # 10
I would be bummed too. Especially if you felt like you were confiding in her about something you aren’t sharing with everyone. If you feel comfortable with it, maybe try talking to her again to gauge if it was a bad day or an overall attitude. You gotta hope that she’ll be able to put aside her opinions and feelings about HER wedding/engagement and recognize how happy and excited you are about yours.
If nothing else, all of us fellow waiting bees will be happy for you!