Post # 1
Ok so last night Darling Husband and I went to the rodeo with some of his guy friends, which we do a lot with, i was tired and not really into it so i said i was going to go home let them have a guy’s night… no big deal.
so i get home, and a few hour’s later 10pm he’s still not home, now i know the rodeo is well over by that time so i text him and just tell him i’ll leave the door unlocked hoping he would say when he’d be home(because i dont want to nag or feel like he has to check in all the time)… he says oh okay thanks.
So that irritated me, and i asked where he was, said he was drinking with the guys, cool… not a problem at all but why couldn’t you have shot me a quick text saying dont wait up i’ll be home late drinking with the guys… its not too difficult.
ne ways so today i find out that he was drinking with a bunch of girls that were there too (who i know and work with), totally not a problem trust him completly. but was a little bummed he didn’t ask if i wanted to come meet them since it was no longer a “guys night”.
would you be a little upset or would you not think anything of it?? 🙂
Post # 3
Did you say you were going home because you were tired, or because it was a guys’ night? If you said you were tired, he probably didn’t want to bother you.
Post # 4
@MrsN23: I’d probably be a little bummed, like you, but not think too much of it. He didn’t do anything wrong, after all. Maybe for future reference ask him in advance to let you know what he’s up to if you’re not with him because I’m sure he would like the same consideration from you in return. But I wouldn’t be too upset. 😉
Post # 5
@CaliHoya: i told him i wanted him to have a guys night.. and i waited up for him…
Post # 6
@Sunfire: Thanks im not like mad or anything just wish he would have informed me, because i did ask him to let me know if the plans changed or anything… oh well maybe he’ll get it next time haha 🙂
Post # 7
@MrsN23: I think that you probably made it pretty clear that you were tired and wanted to go to bed, so he would have assumed you wouldn’t want to go back out again.
I agree he should have texted you and not left you wondering what was going on.
This reminds me of my last relationship and I was endlessly frustrated. He’d do this sort of thing all the time except it would be 3 a.m.
So glad my guy doesn’t feel the need to go out drinking very often, and he’s home by 10 when he does.
Post # 8
Did he know you were waiting up for him? Cus you said you were leaving the door unlocked, hinting you wanted him to come home. If you want something, don’t hint. To me, saying “I’m leaving the door unlocked” means “I’m going to bed so it doesn’t matter when you get home.”
If I went out for a girls night and Fiance left and then I ran into some mutual opposite sex friends (ie no longer a girls night), I wouldn’t bother him because he would be home and I’d assume sleeping. I wouldn’t know if he was waiting up for me or not.
You felt left out, but you left. Don’t be upset with him. And if you want him home by X time, tell him.
Post # 9
@canarydiamond: yeah maybe he figured i was tired… but i didn’t tell him i was tired, just told him to have fun with the guys, and maybe it was fun without me. lol
but yeah thankfully he doesn’t go out and drink very much, but i really dont mind when he does, just let me know when your gonna be home so im not left worrying about you! silly men!
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Post # 11
I’d be irritated and probably tell him about the way you feel. Just let him know that next time if a ‘guy’s night’ turns out to not be quite so guy-filled, you’d appreciate a text so you can join in! I don’t think it’s unreasonable at all :).
Post # 12
I try not to be dissapointed over things I did not explicitly ask for. Since you didnt tell him to text you your plans or if this hasnt been a conversation in the past, then let it go and have the conversation now for the future.
Post # 13
Thanks guys i feel less frusurated and just more silly. if the roles were reversed i guess i would have done the same thing…
but i still stand on him letting me know when he’s gonna be home if its later then he said earlier. 🙂
Post # 14
Since you left there was no reason for him to think you would come back out, so that is probably why he didn’t bother asking. BUT he totally should have sent you a text saying letting you know he was going to be later than he originally said! I would have been P’d about that if it were me!
Also for the record….I don’t think asking your husband what time he’s going to be home and then expecting him to follow through with it is nagging.
Post # 15
I would not have cared one bit – it sounds like you left first and foremost because you were tired and not into it and the guys night was the added bonus. I could care less if my Fiance was out with guys and met up with girls later whether it was a designated guys night or not. If you trust him I don’t really see why it would bother you?