(Closed) A bit frusturated with DH… Would you be?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Did you say you were going home because you were tired, or because it was a guys’ night? If you said you were tired, he probably didn’t want to bother you.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsN23:   I’d probably be a little bummed, like you, but not think too much of it.  He didn’t do anything wrong, after all.  Maybe for future reference ask him in advance to let you know what he’s up to if you’re not with him because I’m sure he would like the same consideration from you in return.  But I wouldn’t be too upset.  πŸ˜‰

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MrsN23:  I think that you probably made it pretty clear that you were tired and wanted to go to bed, so he would have assumed you wouldn’t want to go back out again.

I agree he should have texted you and not left you wondering what was going on.

This reminds me of my last relationship and I was endlessly frustrated. He’d do this sort of thing all the time except it would be 3 a.m.

So glad my guy doesn’t feel the need to go out drinking very often, and he’s home by 10 when he does.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Did he know you were waiting up for him? Cus you said you were leaving the door unlocked, hinting you wanted him to come home. If you want something, don’t hint. To me, saying “I’m leaving the door unlocked” means “I’m going to bed so it doesn’t matter when you get home.” 

If I went out for a girls night and Fiance left and then I ran into some mutual opposite sex friends (ie no longer a girls night), I wouldn’t bother him because he would be home and I’d assume sleeping. I wouldn’t know if he was waiting up for me or not. 

You felt left out, but you left. Don’t be upset with him. And if you want him home by X time, tell him. 

Post # 11
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d be irritated and probably tell him about the way you feel. Just let him know that next time if a ‘guy’s night’ turns out to not be quite so guy-filled, you’d appreciate a text so you can join in! I don’t think it’s unreasonable at all :).

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I try not to be dissapointed over things I did not explicitly ask for. Since you didnt tell him to text you your plans or if this hasnt been a conversation in the past, then let it go and have the conversation now for the future.

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Since you left there was no reason for him to think you would come back out, so that is probably why he didn’t bother asking. BUT he totally should have sent you a text saying letting you know he was going to be later than he originally said! I would have been P’d about that if it were me!

Also for the record….I don’t think asking your husband what time he’s going to be home and then expecting him to follow through with it is nagging.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would not have cared one bit – it sounds like you left first and foremost because you were tired and not into it and the guys night was the added bonus.  I could care less if my Fiance was out with guys and met up with girls later whether it was a designated guys night or not.  If you trust him I don’t really see why it would bother you?

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