- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2012
Pardon my *vent* — and if you got some tips/helpful words:
So, my bridal party is just two MOHs. One of them has totally taken over planning the bachelorette party for me (which is cool) but kept stressing me out (I called her out several times) because she was asking ME how to plan one (because I was planning one for another bride, and I didn’t even do this to the bride cuz that’s the fun!).
Anyway, it appears that this Maid/Matron of Honor has planned stuff that is preventing some of my girlfriends from attending (I work in a non-profit and a couple of my gfs too), and the Maid/Matron of Honor has even asked me to give her additional guest lists because she wanted to fill up the “room” — so it sounds like she is running into some financial issues with the planning. Uhm….
Anyway, after my recent getting-ready experience at my friend’s wedding (I was her MOH), I determined that it would be very rewarding (mentally and physically) to hire makeup/hair on location service, especially after both of my MOHs had commented that they felt they would need a professional to come in to do their hair (I’m usually the one among my friends that is a “pro” at hairstyling — heck I even did my own hair and the other bridesmaids hair at the recent wedding.. thus my findings). Naturally, I don’t want to be stressing out about helping out with their hair myself, so I elected to find very reasonable rates, and send an email to the wedding party (and mothers).
Well, the said Maid/Matron of Honor took some time responding to the email (I offered several options: airbrush+hair, traditional+hair, or just hair, or just makeup). After a follow up email, she finally responses that she is hestiating and would rather go to a salon herself to get her hair done and rather do her own makeup. I have no problem with her wanting to do her own makeup, and I offered to work with her if she felt that the prices were too expensive (as in “gifting”), and explained that one reason I’m hiring the team is because of her and other’s comments initially, and that going elsewhere while getting ready totally defended the purpose of bonding as a bridal party She then said “Ok, I think $__ with tip is reasonable” She was quoting the exact price of the service, so I’m like “great!” I’m excited she is okay.
And then a week later, she emails saying “I rather just put up my own hair and do my own makeup because I could use the $__ to pay for hotel, etc…”
Wow. Am I wrong to be a bit peeved by this behavior? I would like to at least gift her the hairstyling, but the other Maid/Matron of Honor was totally great with getting into all this, so I’m not sure how to handle this…