(Closed) A bit of a dilemna with one of my MOHs

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Oh boy, I get that the history here is one of annoying and stressful behavior, but if it were me I would let it slide…maybe she felt pressured to accept the services even though she wasn’t comfortable with it, maybe it was ok and then a financial hiccup came along so now she’s got to shuffle things around, it could be a thousand things, but I can guarantee that she’s not doing it to upset or anger you.

Friends + Money = BAD

Just leave it alone, either offer to pay for it or let her go her own way with her makeup and hair, anything else is just likely to add to the drama.

Post # 4
1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Let her do her own hair and makeup.  Maybe she under-budgeted for something and is felling a pinch.  Regardless, I think it would be a lot easier on your stress level and your friendship to let this one go.

Post # 6
964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I don’t understand.  Are you paying for her hair and make up as a gift or is she required to pay for her own hair and make up but the person is coming to the hotel to do it?  I personally don’t feel like having their hair and make up done is a gift but that

I’m glad your letting it slide.  It’s not worth the drama it will cause.



Post # 7
6743 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think that if you want them to use the people you’re providing, you should have offered to pay from the start and it should be in addition to a gift.  Although, I would totally understand if the gift was a lot less expensive than the gift you may have gotten had you not been paying for hair and makeup.  Perhaps she didn’t realize all her expenses/felt pressured to say yes to please you since you’re the bride.  It sounds like she’s just trying to give you the best and say yes as much as she can and it’s a good thing she’s coming to you now and saying this rather than later, when everything is already booked and it’s too late, or worse, being resentful of you for it.  Asking for your ladies to get both their hair and makeup professionally done and pay for it, on top of travel expenses is really a lot to ask for, IMO. 

Post # 9
3375 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Well if she wants to do her own hair and makeup, maybe gift her whatever it would cost towards her hotel.

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