(Closed) A bit of a vent about looking 16.

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 76
238 posts
Helper bee

20 is still extremely young to have a child. Perhaps this plays a big role in the judgements? I am not judging, but I would think “wow she looks so young” (I wouldn’t say anything) if I saw a 22 year old with a two year old. Most 17-22 year olds have that young, “blank” looking face.


Again, no judgement, but I am certain this plays a role in these comments.

Post # 77
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I still get things like that — even at 29, people sometimes thought I was an intern. Last year a woman asked where I was attending school (I was 35). It’s a pain when you’re younger, but trust me when I say I’m loving it now. 😉

But yeah, there is a level of frustation with people treating you that way because you’re a younger mom who looks even younger. I’m so sorry you have encountered so many mean, nosy, judgmental people out there.

Post # 78
611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor

I already commented on this post! Pregnancy brain lol. That said, I got carded a few weeks ago and the grocery cashier was all shocked when I showed her my ID, said I barely looked 21 (I’m 28 now!) I wonder if having the baby will help or make it worse??

  • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  Stephefanie.
Post # 79
2256 posts
Buzzing bee

The phenomenon I call “kid face”. I’m 27. Someone once thought I was my husband’s child.

Post # 80
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

At one point two years ago an older woman came up to my mother and kind of pulled her aside and whispered to her stuff like “I’m a social worker. I see your daughter had two children of her own. If you’d like I can talk to her, counsel her, to make sure that she finishes high school. I’ll even stay with her through college, if you’d like.”

It was sweet that she was so concerned. But my mom was like “oh, that’s not necessary” and then the lady kind of cut her off, and was saying stuff like “well, in that case I can help her get back into glass. Or get her her GED at the very least.”

My mom had to tell her that she was 26 and had been married for four years at that point. The poor woman was mortified! 

We still get a laugh out of it.

That was my sister. She’s 28 now and people still thinks she’s barely 18. 

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