Post # 1
Ok, so I got a promise ring from my SO about a year and a half ago and have been wearing it on my wedding finger. This wasn’t a big problem really but latelly since I am in this waiting stage it really got to me.
Specially this month. I got asked twice if there is something that I would like to announce! And it felt stupid to say, oh no it’s jut a promise ring. Made me feel like in high school. I am 32 for crying out loud!
I got asked by our mutual guy friend when at dinner, ofcourse he waited to ask till SO went to the washroom. My girlfriend last weekend wasn’t so discrete. I mean she is married and has a child and is pregnant on top of it, so she loudly asked in front of my SO. I kept my cool, but SO was quiet like a mouse.
I have decided that I will wear it on my other hand from now on.
Post # 3
I don’t have a promise ring per se, but I did get a ring from my SO for my birthday that I used to wear on my ring finger. After one of his friends freaked out in a bar thinking we were engaged I changed hands. I know it’s frustrating. I really liked wearing it on that finger, but I guess when we do get engaged it’ll be all the more special.
Post # 4
@Lulume: I went threw the same thing! SO bought me a promise ring for our 1 year anniversary. I used to wear it on my ering finger but stopped because everyone thought we were engaged and it was frustrating. So then I started wearing it on my right hand, now i’m waiing 4 years later for him to get me my left hand ring!!! UGH!
Post # 5
Too bad it doens’t fit well on my right hand. Had to go to the jewelry store yesterday so it can get half a size larger. It will take two weeks.
I told my SO about it yesterday and told him I’ll be doing that so he might as well let me know what he would like to engrave on it since it will be at the store cuz he hasn’t yet. Then we spoke of engraving and in conversation he learned that my ex had my promise ring engraved that he gave to me years ago, therefore my current SO will not engrave anything on it ( i guess he wan’t to be different – How freaking childish, he is 37 years old geez.
So I didn’t tell him anything and just dropped it off after work. I didn’t mention it to him. So far he hasn’t noticed that the ring is missing from my finger’s LOL
I wonder what will go through his head. He liked it that I was wearing it on left hand, It made me look “taken”, Now that that finger will be empty, maybe it will give him a kick ? LOL
Post # 6
I have always worn my promise ring on my right hand, although I still get second glances from people asking if there is something they missed, then I have to say “Wrong hand!” 🙂 haha
It might give him a kick in the right direction, FINGERS CROSSED 🙂
Post # 7
@Lulume: that SSSUUUUUUUCKS! 🙁
Post # 8
That seems like an awfully long time to wait at the age(s) the two of you are. If it were me (and as long as there weren’t any extinuating circumstances such as needing to graduate, etc.) I’d have a “Come to Jesus” talk with him. He’s 37. He should know what he wants by now, and he’d best stop dragging his feet if you two want to have a family!
The fact that he dodged the topic reeally worries me for you.
Post # 9
Girl, I’ve had a promise ring on that finger for 4 years now! It sucks royally but when i got the promise ring we were moving cross-country & decided that a wedding was the end goal of our 5 year plan after the move. 5 years is next summer, and we’ve got a date set-But damn if I’m not still waiting on a REAL ring! It’s soo annoying sometimes!
Post # 10
@EffieTrinket: Well we’ve been together for 2.5 years. He was married before and has two children from the marriage.
I have no kids and am still on the fence if I do want them.
It just sucks cuz may past relationship of 7.5 years got to me with waiting but i was still young. Not to say that I am not now cuz I’m 32 and feel great. I just want to have the status of married. I don’t want to be a 32, 33, 34 year old girlfriend. I want to have a husband.
Post # 11
This may sound reallllly mean but I am actually just genuinely curious… What did you bees expect people to think when you put a ring on the finger one wears a ring on if they are engaged? lol maybe i’m just being dense… it has been a long day. ><
Post # 12
@raye9289: LOL, u don’t sound mean. My SO put on that finger when he gave it to me. It was sweet and so early in relationship that I didn’t think it would be a big deal and honestly it wasn’t bothering me at all until recently.
Post # 13
@Lulume: aw! That’s really sweet, I definitely would’ve kept it there too then 🙂 Hopefully the real deal is not too far off!!