(Closed) A blessing in disguise?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I would wait to move until one of you has a job offer.  You don’t want to go from one desperate situation to another (this is assuming that you have some money for living expenses right now).  Plus by moving, you will end up spending money that you need for liviing expenses on moving expenses.

Post # 4
Member
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow, i’d be concerned, too. Depending on what he works with–what sort of precautions was he taking? I deal with a lot of caustic stuff that irritates my skin and I have to wear gloves. If i was allergic to something, I’d have to wear a respirator or the appropriate gear. O well, what’s done is done. Because he quit, he won’t get unemployment and he needs to get a new job right now. But it could take 6 months, easily. Do you have the resources to get by for now?

If you have no money….well, your bf needs to get a job, I guess. Disability aside, is there anything you can do? part time or from home? make things to sell? Anything to sorta help out? Garage sale? 

Post # 6
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1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Depending on how much he wants to pursue it, I really don’t think it’s legal for an employer to force an employee to work with materials they are allergic to… if he goes to file for unemployment, that might be something to bring up.

Post # 8
Member
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Well, even if you moved in with family….you don’t know how long you’d be moving in for. Is your bf more likely to find a job in your home town? What about the lease on the place you are living at now?

Post # 10
Member
142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Things will work out. BF’s health is more inportant, and I believe that this do happen for a reason. Pray.

Post # 12
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh, i see. Well, everybody i work with comes in contact with very dangerous chemicals (hydrofloric acid for one–it’ll eat your bones up!) and they just tell us to be proactive about our own safety. I just wonder if this will come up again in another job? Unless he’s looking to change fields completely, that is. I know it’s typically easier to get a job in the same field, which means it’s possible he’d have to deal with this again or a very similiar situation.

Hey, i name drop! Don’t feel bad about it at all! I use my personal connections all the time to try to find Darling Husband a job at my company. It’d be soooo much harder if he didn’t have an “in” with me.

I’d move in with your family as a last resort. But even if you are self sufficient, the money will run out sometime. Maybe he can pick up a really low paying job for now and keep applying? Maybe he’ll get a bite in a few months. It took Dh like, 6 months before he got a job (and a low paying one at that!) and I know MissAsb was sending out applications for awhile.

My motto’s “plan for the worst” haha. I’m a debbie downer, aren’t i?! =]

PS i just saw about the opportunities in the hometown. 30 minutes away isn’t so far–i’d be applying like a maniac to anything i could remotely do!

Post # 13
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah, I have been applying for jobs actively since January and finally have a job now.  I was looking for a bit of a career change which made it harder to find something but I didn’t want to do what I was doing before.

Post # 15
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

At least it’s a start and then you can work your way up later.  Sounds like you two are good on living on very little money which will be great when you start making more because you won’t blow it all!

Post # 16
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Has he looked into serving? You don’t need any kind of degree to do that and you can make really good money! Serving was my favorite pre-career type job because it isn’t very difficult, you get to hang out with cool people all day, you get to interact with (mostly nice) customers, and you make way more money than I ever made elsewhere. The hours can kind of suck because the big money shifts are all nights and weekends… but if you’re not working then tuesday mornings could do just as well for quality time as saturday nights 🙂 

If I were him I would definitely aim for a place that serves alcohol because you’ll make way more money that way… but probably not go to the best restaurant in town because usually they want people with a lot of experience. 

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