Post # 1
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Newbee
Hello all! I’m not new to weddingbee. I just changed my name for this thread. My husband and I will be married 2 years this comin may and have been together for a total of 10 years this September. I’m having a hard time keepin my cool with him lately because I want to start trying for a baby and he wants to buy a bass boat. And he says until he get a boat he’s not gonna try for one! This to me just seems stupid! I know what he’s thinking that once we have a kids he can’t go and do whatever he wants and go buy whatever he wants cause he’ll have a little one that depends on him. I’m ready and hes not and its really starting to tick me off! Any help? Because I don’t know what to do anymore!
Post # 3
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Honey bee
This is just silly, cant he just save up for this boat while TTC? Gosh is not liket a child stops your life forever. My parents had 8 children and still did everything they wanted. My sis in law has 4 and they do and live life as normal as possible. Tell him enough is enough, life is too short anyway to be spent on material stuff. GL hunny and best wishes:)
Post # 4
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Busy bee
Wow, judging by his childish, manipulative behavior it seems you already have a child. Why can’t you do both? Life doesn’t end just because you have children. You juggle and make it work.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
He’s probably thinking that a screaming infant is going to wreck the nice relaxing boat rides he’s dreaming of. Calm down! Let the man enjoy his life and do what he wants to do before he settles down and commits to a child. I think the “I’m not trying until I have a boat” is a bit childish but I can see his point of view. It’s not uncommon for men to want to “live their lives” before they enter fatherhood. Most women don’t see children as “the end of peoples lives” but it’s a huuuuuge change and it could backfire forcing him into having a child before he is ready and from what you’ve wrote, he doesn’t seem ready quite yet.
Post # 6
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Newbee
He doesn’t act like a child. He’s actually a really responsible person. The main reason he wants a boat is because he sold his old one because the engine blew up on it and it was way to much to fix( more than buying a new one). He sold it before we got married to save us a payment so we could pay more on wedding stuff. Well now he wants another one to replace the onof the one he sold. This issue wouldn’t bug me so much if I knew that he didn’t want kids but I know he does! And what really bugs me is he’s so darn good with kids always loving on and playing with his cousins kids. It makes me want to have a baby even more when I see him being so good with them! I don’t know maybe I being to pushy and should just let the man have his boat? And it all be over with lol.
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
@Grego2011: I could have written this post myself! My husband wanted to buy a boat and a car. I’m like, how does that even compare? After a lot of fighting, he came to terms with it and we decided to TTC instead (he wants a baby more than anything right now!). I’m not sure how I did it… It just didn’t make sense for us and he finally saw that too. I’m sooo thankful. It was def a rough patch.
Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
If he wants kids as well, let him have his boat.
Post # 9
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Newbee
But to get a boat will more than likely mean payments just like getting a car. Then he’ll be able to say “oh we need to wait till we get something paid till so we have extra money”. lol. I know this man very well! Lol
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