@skyeatnight: Oh, yeah, I have stories. Once I quit a job after three weeks because the guy was such an ass, and he hit on me! And he was married, I despised him, and I couldn’t take it.
Anyway. Do you really need this job and are you planning to stay there? If so, you are going to have to learn some tricks of dealing with difficult people. And there are some tactics, and it can be fun, no lie.
First of all, don’t cry at work. Rule #1, haha! Never, ever.
Rule #2 – Realize right this minute that you are ten times smarter and better than this asswipe.
Rule #3 – Keep your sense of humor at all times.
Here’s what to do: You have to outsmart him. Use your brains, your wit and your sense of humor. Make it like a game. You can get the best of this guy, seriously, you can. Because he is used to being a bully and he likes being that way, it works for him. Ok? He isn’t going to change so don’t get it in your head about how he “should” or “should not” be. He is who he is and he is your boss. So, work his personality flaws to your advantage.
Do unexpected things. For instance, instead of cry, laugh. Or, instead of reacting negatively when he says something nasty – brighten up, smile and say, “Thank you!” It will completely freak him out. Be careful not to overdo it.
Double up on the “Yes, sir’s” and do a flawless job. Become indispensable to him. And try to find something personal about him that you can talk to him about and be on his “side” about, like a sports team, whatever. Kiss his ass, in other words, lol.
Also, commiserate with him when he says negative things, as though you agree with him. Ask his advice about something, take it, and compliment the hell out of him for “helping” you sssoooo much.
Tell him things like how nice he looks in that suit or tie, whatever. (Be careful not to make the guy fall in love with you, haha! Don’t flirt, just make him feel like your “hero”).
You can put difficult people off guard if you behave in a way they’re not used to receiving, in a way that’s unexpected. It will work, try it.
The hardest thing is not throwing up when you do all this.