- 8 years ago
…about the other bridesmaids in your party!
I am so honored to be in a dear friend’s bridal party this summer, but have gotten a little frustrated with some of the other bridesmaids in the massive party. The bridal party is made up from gals from all her walks of life, which is great, but means that outside the group from our home town, we don’t really know each other.
Bridey asked us about budgets and tried to keep things as reasonable as possible for us and communicated constantly about costs and input when choosing the dress and shoes. And yet, somehow, we still got bit! She sent us a link to an adorable pair of shoes from Target, brand new in stock, under $20, and asked us to please order them soon so we would have them when we tried on the dresses. We all squeal and (supposedly) order them!
3 months later and two of the bridesmaids email the group out of the blue and complain that they don’t have the shoes in their sizes anymore! Well, duh. I knew my shoes were outside return date time frame (and I wore them for my fitting) so I immediately jumped on the horn and got their sizes and rallied the troops to try to find their sizes anywhere, but they were gone. We got as close to a half size down for one girl, but the other girl never even responded with her shoe size so we could try to help!
I tried to find similar shoes to ours (they were pretty unique though) but Bridey was so frustrated and knew “close” wouldnt fly with Momzilla anyway so she decided to pick out new shoes. I said ok this time get sizes first, and buy them all at once please! I was really hoping she might deduct the cost of my first pair of shoes from the cost of the second but alas… just gotta tighten that grad school budget’s belt a lil more and move on.
I know many of you sweet dolls might say I should just ask her to compensate me for the price of the first pair of shoes, but since I actually can wear them again, and she is under so so much stress anyway between Momzilla and the absentee BMs that I just want to be a source of uplifting support and that’s all.
My point with this epically long vent is just to say, Please, Brides, no matter how considerate and thoughtful you may be, you cannot always expect it from those around you! Try to arrange things such that you don’t have to rely on others to be considerate to accomplish your bridal vision! I am so mad on her behalf that she didn’t get her first choice shoes AND had to search again! Protect yourself girls… and put your foot down about editing your bridal party!