(Closed) a British fiancee…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
536 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Unfortunately I don’t know a lot about immigration law, but I would recommend that you speak to someone who specializes in it.  He or she should be able to give you some good advice.  You can also probably check online.  

Post # 4
2889 posts
Sugar bee

Are you living apart or seperate now? I would suggest a civil marriage (you don’T have to make a big deal of it but do it on paper) in the place you currently live if you live together. Being married would help start the visa process earlier and then you can plan the actual wedding. Immigration laws vary, maybe you could see what country is easier and decide to live there for a couple of years as a married couple before applying for a visa to the other country because there is usually a length requirement for a more long term visa.

Post # 6
888 posts
Busy bee

My partner is from overseas too.  We did a civil ceremony to as you said ‘get the ball rolling’ and hired a lawyer to help with the immigration process.  But do get a lawyer. We were originally planning to be married in my partner’s home country and it turned out that the lawyer advised against him traveling so soon. 

But don’t worry or try not to (I know it is not easy) – everything should be okay. 


Post # 7
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My guy is British too.. and although I never imagined marrying someone from a different country, it is stressful!  I’ve researched the settlement visa process heavily but have found that communitys with people that have completed the process tends to give the most in depth information. My favorite site is uk-yankee.com.  I assume from your post that you are joining him.  I am doing the same.  From what I’ve read it doesnt look like lawyers are necessary (but are available if that makes you feel more comfortable) and that the only requirements are that you and your partner are about 21, he is a lawful resident of the U.K. and that you have enough funds together to support the two of you without relying on public funds.  You can pay a courier to get you put on top of the list of applications in order to speed the process up.   It is usually $150 – $300 to do so and people get answers typically in 1 – 3 days for uncomplicated cases.


I’m worried too.. particularly about the money part because we don’t have any funds since we’ve been traveling back and forth for a couple years.  I’ve decided to wait until I know that I will definitely pass because I’ve heard of people getting rejected due to funds or other issues and not allowed to enter the UK just to visit because the immigration is worried that they are not going to return home.

Good Luck!!

Post # 8
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Check out this thread – you’re not alone!

Post # 9
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I second uk-yankee.com. When hubby and I considered moving to England (he’s from Essex) I found that website to be very helpful. You need all the support you can get, and the girls on that forum are very friendly!

Post # 10
5 posts
  • Wedding: November 2010

Hi there.

I have a British fiance too. At the moment, we’re not 100% sure where we’re going to live. It’s a very tough thing to decide. I know that a lot of people do have a quickie wedding to get the visa ball rolling, but it’s not necessarily something you have to do. If you want to have a bigger wedding, you can do that. You just have to be prepared to do the visa stuff immediately afterwards.

Please don’t worry about the visa stuff too much. This is supposed to be a really happy time! I have heard of very few cases where things have been unduly delayed. If you and your fiance are both people without a criminal record and it’s your first marriage, there shouldn’t be too many reasons why it would be delayed or any need for a lawer. The process is something you can do on your own if you want to, but you can get a lawyer if you feel more confident with one. A courier also can speed things up too. I really second UK/Yankee, it’s a great site. (If you do decide to have him imigrate to the US, VisaJourney is the equivalent) I also have a webpost at home from the Livejournal site Brits Americans, where a recently married person posts about how she quickly got her visa processed to live in the UK. I think she did it in a month, which is the visa version of quick!

If you’re interested, I actually worked out a spreadsheet and Word document for my own benefit of what the marriage visa procedures are for each of our options (ie, for each country what it costs to marry there/live there and what they require for that) The rates are probably a few months out of date now, but I’m happy to send it along to you for an idea of it once I get out of work and to my home computer.

Good luck!

Post # 11
348 posts
Helper bee

My husband is also British, although he immigrated here rather than vice versa.  You should really, really speak with a lawyer at least once to review your options.  If you get recommendations from a reputable source, you can set up initial consultations with a few lawyers.  These should be either free or payable on an hourly basis.  Websites are great for navigating the paperwork, but I think professional advice on when to get married and which process to use is invaluable.

We also were married in a civil ceremony and are now planning our larger wedding.  We would not have known this was the best option before we did our legal consultations.

Post # 12
614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

My American SIL married her british man and moved to England since his visa was denied to come here prior to the wedding. Literally 2 weeks after they sent in their information and all the random proof like photos, phone logs, etc, her visa got approved. I don’t know if that helps you at all, but it can be done!

Post # 14
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My friend is Canadian, and her husband is British.  They met while he was still in the British Navy (ie. in a sub all the time – half the time she literally didn’t know where in the world he was).  They decided to have a very small ceremony in her hometown while on a visit to Canada (they planned it in 3 weeks!) so she could celebrate with his family, and then she taught in Libya for a bit while the immigration process went through. Now she’s with him in the UK, and they plan on having a larger church ceremony with his family at a later date.  Of course, being separated was stressful (but at least he wasn’t on a sub!), but overall the way they did it really worked for them.

Post # 15
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My Fiance is American and I’m British; he chose to stay here in the UK with me rather than vice versa, but I’m afraid I can’t give much in the way of advice because he got a visa with a work permit 18 months before we even got engaged – so we won’t need to go through the marriage visa process, and by the time his current visa expires we’ll be married and he’ll have been resident in the UK long enough to apply for Indefinate Leave to Remain (which is ultimately what all you ladies will probably be aiming for if you want to be able to live here permenantly…).

Just really wanted to say that it CAN be done, and though it is indeed a complicated and stressful process my experience so far is as long as you can show proof of a long-standing relationship and intent to marry for reasons other than being able to work in the UK, you shouldn’t have much to worry about. Hang in there!

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