(Closed) a cardinal sin

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: is it wrong to try on someone's engagement ring?
    nope, i don't mind : (117 votes)
    44 %
    heck yes... that is MY ring : (54 votes)
    21 %
    dont care either way : (92 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 47
    6283 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @beemo:  I have heard this superstition (sp?) too and I think it is so silly. I have tried on every one of my friends’ rings who have gotten engaged and passed mine to anyone who has asked to see it!

    Post # 49
    1397 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    i wouldn’t tell someone no if they asked me… but i wouldn’t like it either.

    an engaged coworker, years ago, took hers off and handed it to me to try on though i didn’t even asked. i tried it on not to insult her, and it was beautiful, but i’d never ask! weird.

    Post # 50
    3263 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’m not really superstitious about it or anything, but I think it’s a bit weird. Future Mother-In-Law took my ring off my hand while she was looking at it, then put it on her own hand for a few seconds. All I kept thinking was “Um, can I have it back now?” If one of my friends asked to try it on for sizing purposes, to see how the stone looked in comparison to their hands, something like that, then I don’t think I’d mind too much.

    Post # 51
    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2002

    I don’t care in the least bit. *shrugs*

    Last summer I stopped by the beach after dinner with a friend and we were being silly and I took my ring off and handed it to her because I was going to do cartwheels with the kids. I told her to stick it on her finger for a second and she FREAKED OUT claiming it was bad luck. I had never heard of that and I didn’t see how her holding my ring on her finger for 2 minutes would be worse than potentially dropping it in the sand at night. But she insisted and just clenched it in her fist. 

    Post # 52
    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I guess it breaks down to how close you are to the person. When my dearest friend of fourteen years got engaged before me, she’d let me wear her ring when she was in the shower/washing dishes etc. She’s practically family, and I’d let her try on my ring if she wanted. I wouldn’t let just anyone try it on…like coworkers etc, but close friends and family, sure, why not? You trust them not to do anything stupid with it. I’ve actually never heard of the superstition of trying on someone else’s ring? I heard something about not wearing someone else’s ring on their wedding day…? (I wore aforementioned best friend’s e-ring during her ceremony since I was her Maid/Matron of Honor and she only got married with her wedding band).

    Post # 53
    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    Lol I was raised a Catholic and I can definitely that trying on someone else’s ring is FAR from being a cardinal sin Tongue Out

    I personally wouldn’t ask anyone, close friends and family included, to try on their rings BUT my close girlfriends who are engaged have offered their rings to be tried on to get an idea of finger size and such and so they obviously don’t have a problem with it. When I am engaged, I don’t anticipate to have any issues if my close friends asked to try on my ring.

    Post # 54
    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I don’t mind it or think it’s a huge deal, but it’s appreciated if people ask first. I always ask someone first to be polite. Plus, I have really small fingers, so I usually decline someone’s request or tell them to please only put it on their pinky a bit. It only takes one time of having a ring stuck on someone else’s finger to make a girl hesitant to share.

    Post # 55
    9815 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’m not superstitious so I don’t think it hurts anything.  What would someone trying it on have to do with anything? 

    Now I would think it was weird if I didn’t know you well or if you just randomly wanted to wear it. If you were a close friend and you wanted to try it on because maybe you were looking at rings with your SO then I wouldn’t find it so weird.


    Post # 56
    2651 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

    I would let them try it on. Especially if it was because they were considering the style for themselves. I would NEVER let a stranger or someone I odn’t know really well try it on though in case they ran off with it.

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