(Closed) A cash registry- tacky or no?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If people want to give you money, they will write you a check.  I don’t see the purpose of a “cash registry” and yes it does seem a bit tacky.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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flowersa09:  I wouldn’t waste my money or part of your gift using a honeyfund type account.

Register for the things you need. If someone wants to give cash they will. Call me old-fashioned, but I was raised that wedding gifts are to help the couple get started, not pay for the honeymoon.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Personally, i have lived with my fiancé for most of our realationshop. We have NO need for presents. I don’t love the idea of a cash registry however I feel that a wishing well is the way for us. I don’t expect guest to contribute but if they want to purchase a gift anyway the money would be much more practical for us. I dont want to sound ungreatful, but we just don’t need more “things”. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper

It makes me sad that GoFundMe is used in this way. The people who set it up wanted it to be a vehicle to help people in REAL need but greedy monsters have turned it into a fund my lifestyle website. Now most people avoid the website other than to laugh at the entitlement.

As for the other wedding specific cash registries my thoughts are if you are so stupid that you want to pay someone to collect money for you then you probably don’t really need money or any gift. I mean if you are going to give it away and all I would rather give it the local homeless shelter who really need it.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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j_jaye:  I agree, my 11 year old tried to start a non profit to provide supplies so that the teachers in our state did not have to purchase out of their own pockets. She was over shadowed by a man who wanted to “learn how to make cole slaw”.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

If someone wants to give you cash, they will. I wouldn’t mess with honeyfund or anything like that – you don’t get 100% of the gift, and I think people are kind of turned off by them too. GoFundMe is definitely tacky – I’m just of the opinion that you should only go on the honeymoon/vacation that you can afford and not expect others to pay for it. I think there are good uses for GoFundMe, but trying to get your friends/family to pay for your vacation isn’t one of them, in my opinion.

Just register for what you guys need for your home, and toss in a few fun items too. Trust me, there will be people that want to write checks (we had a bunch of people hand us envelopes with checks and cash) and they don’t need any prompting by having a GoFundMe and/or honeyfund.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2016

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flowersa09:  I feel like experiences can be WAY more rewarding then material things anyway. Your family and friends will be helping to build memories. 

Post # 11
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Newbee

I find it a tad tacky. But maybe its the new modern thing, i dunno. Not for me. do what works for you and what you think your guests would be comfy with. 

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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flowersa09:  The thing is everyone can figure out that they are not really buying you a “kayak excursion”. They are donating $100, of which you will receive a lesser amount, which you may or may not put towards a kayak excursion.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I find it such an off putting idea. I would register for just a few things. People will give the hint and give you cash. Or put on your website that you’d love “date night” gifts of gift certificates. I’d write you a check, but would never use a website.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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flowersa09: I think your older relatives will be the one who find a cash/honeymoon registery the MOST tacky. If your grandma wants to gift you a nice dinner, she can find out where you’re going and research restaurants in the area – people have done it that way for years, long before Honeyfund came around. It’s definitely tacky. My Fiance likes the idea of it too and doesn’t “understand” why it’s tacky, but I just said no, no, no until he dropped it. The wedding is not a charity so begging for money is not appropriate. 

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