(Closed) A cash registry- tacky or no?

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 61
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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flowersa09:  Fiance and I are staying at a Couples Resort in Jamaica, and their website lets you set up a honeymoon registry so guests know that they are actually buying you a room upgrade, massage, dinner on the beach, etc. instead of just writing a check and not knowing how it will be used. However, we booked through a AAA agent, so I’m not sure if we would have the option of setting up a honeymoon registry. It doesn’t really matter because we’re not doing one, but it’s worth asking if you have a travel agent or if you’re booking on your own. 

Post # 62
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Newbee

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flowersa09:  I don’t think cash/honeymoon/experience gift registries are tacky at all. In some cultures, only giving cash is acceptable and boxed gifts are perceived as thoughtless.

My fiancé and I picked our registries based on necessities. We’ve been living together for almost 3 years and already have silverware, china, furniture, etc. so we created a very small regsitry at Macy’s with less than 30 items. That way, guests can choose to use it if they want or they can give us giftcards/cash. If you and your fiancé need the household stuff, definitely go for the traditional registry. If he insists on wanting cash, then limit your registry to just a few items. 

Post # 63
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

If you are uncomfortable with these options, nicely explain this to your fiancé, and definitely don’t do it. Some people still will give money though of course many will follow the registry. I do not find these things tacky but many people do, and if it makes you umcomfortable thrn it is fine to stick with a gift registry.

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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flowersa09:  I’m such a hypocrite on this topic. I hate cash registries, “fund my honeymoon/new house” requests or “cash gifts preferred”, and think they are super tacky. But of course, at my wedding I was definitely hoping to get cash gifts and found it way more helpful/useful than anything else. My Mother-In-Law tried to insist that we write “cash gifts preferred” on all of our invitations and was really pissed when we didn’t. I’d say 95% of our guests gave us cash anyway so it worked out for everyone (except Mother-In-Law, who was still annoyed about it months later).

Post # 65
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Helper bee

Hey there! My finance and I have lived together for over two years and have pretty much everything we need. When we moved out we received a hand me down dinette table and an old couch which is worse for wear. My mom and bridesmaids are throwing a shower so what we have done is create a small registry of about 55 items for things that need to be replaced, 48 of those items are affordable at less than $50 each (shower gifts in these parts are usually $50-$100). Shower guest list will be about 40 people. Wedding guest list is 120. We’ve also asked our bridal party to tell people we need some larger furniture items IF they are asked. Essentially I’m of the same belief as everyone else, you cannot out and out ask for money, but if people ask then there are ways around it. I think it also depends on your geographical area and your social circle. I’m from southern Ontario and cash gifts are the norm. 

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