(Closed) A Child Called ‘It’

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I say something?
    Yes, talk to FMIL : (5 votes)
    25 %
    Yes, talk to FI : (9 votes)
    45 %
    No, stay out of it : (6 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I assume this is not something that just developed. It seems it has been this way for quite some time, probably since his father was killed. Have you talked to you Fiance about it? Does it bother him? 

    Post # 5
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    476 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    As an outsider looking in, I’d think it was a coping mechanism she built into her life to detach a bit. I’d be scared that bringing it up would really shake her reality. I’d talk to your Fiance and say that, you’ve noticed that she does it and it does bother you because you value him so much. Then gauge the next steps off his reaction.

    Post # 6
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    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @PopRox:Exactly. I was thinking her son probably reminds her of her deceased husband and she therefore “copes” by not acknowledging him as her husband’s flesh and blood. 

    Post # 7
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    562 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Does she say it teasingly or seriously? I don’t think it will do any good to bring it up to her, maybe to your Fiance but not her.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    To the OP: If it’s something that your Fiance sees to not notice, don’t bring it up. Why fix something that’s not broken? It could just make things worse. 

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