(Closed) A Chinese American wedding.. door games, wedding games, and tea ceremony Q’s

posted 10 years ago in East Asian
Post # 3
27 posts

I’m doing door games before the ceremony and many friends/relatives have done the same so it’s not strange to have the groom see the bride prior to the wedding. It actually affords us more time and flexibility in terms of getting photos taken, etc. and for our wedding party/families to mingle throughout the day.

 As for the tea ceremony, I’ve seen it done towards the end of the ceremony (basically after everything else). The bride’s parents were served first, then the groom’s parents. It went quite smoothly, the officiant said a little bit about the tradition beforehand and then made some concluding remarks afterwards.

Post # 5
225 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think we’ll be doing it differently from what has already been mentioned. We’re doing the door games, and then tea ceremony for the bride side. We will then shuttle over to the groom side and do the tea ceremony there, followed by lunch to all in attendance.

When we do tea ceremony, we tend to start with the eldest family member first (in family order). And we usually do my dad’s side first, followed by my mom’s side. I don’t think the tea ceremony will be awkward – you are giving them tea and something to nibble on, correct? They can just take the tea and give you well wishes! 

Usually at weddings we have, this is how its done, and I also plan on wearing a kwa. 

After lunch, we head over to our ceremony site (same as our reception site) to have the ceremony. I’m still not sure about the before pictures at this point, because while he will have already have seen me during the morning tea ceremony, he would not have seen me in my wedding dress yet! 

Following ceremony will be cocktails and dinner immediately following. 

Post # 6
8 posts
  • Wedding: July 2009

Games at the reception is usually done at the same time. If you are having a Chinese reception and have shark fin soup on the menu, you would get ready right after the soup.

And for the tea ceremony, the bride’s parents first, to thank them for raising you. Then the groom’s, saying hi to your new family. You know, the tea ceremony does not have to be long, it is not meant to be long. 


Regarding the dress, have you considered wearing a chinese wedding dress for the tea ceremony? For chinese bride, they usually wear at least 3 dresses thur out the day. One for the tea ceremony, one for the Western ceremony, and one for the reception. I have had friend who wear 5 different outfits just for the reception…  


One for tea ceremony

One for western ceremony

one for entering the reception hall and cutting cake

one for playing games

one for saying goodbye to your guests


It is not even an uncommon thing to do for a Chinese bride. 

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