- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
SO and I are planning on getting married on November 11, 2011. He hasn’t proposed yet (he’s not allowed until after I graduate in May) but we’re still throwing ideas around despite not being officially engaged.
We have a major dilemma regarding the location of the wedding. His hometown is upstate NY. My hometown is near Cincinnati, Ohio. We live in Kentucky, three hours from my hometown, almost 15 from his. My family is primarily in Cincinnati. His is primarily in upstate NY.
The way I see it, we have three options, all with pros and cons.
1) Get married in my hometown. This would mean barely any of his family would be present. They cannot travel due to financial restraints and health problems. Maybe a couple of his cousins and a sister or two would be able to come. This would also be very dramatic in terms of my family… In my family, opinions are like buttholes, everybody’s got one and they aren’t afraid to make it known. Additionally, this would drastically increase the size of the wedding due to having/wanting to invite a multitude of family, friends, family friends, etc.
2) Get married in his hometown. This would mean that none of my friends and only a few members of my family would be able to come. All of the important people would be there but none of the family friends, friends, or extended family would be there. This doesn’t really bother me a whole lot because I know that I could have my mother (and whoever else who felt the need to be involved) plan a reception and that would pretty much resolve the issue of many people not being able to come. However, I would be planning a wedding from 14-15 hours away in a town I’ve only visited twice. And we’d be getting married in the Catholic church, and trying to do pre cana from 14-15 hours away (and I’m not Catholic) and we live together… And there’s a chance some of his family wouldn’t come.
3) Get married in Jamaica with a maid of honor, best man, and select few guests. The problem here is that his parents couldn’t make the trip. The select few guests would be my parents, brother, and a couple of his cousins and maybe a sibling of his. I also wouldn’t get the beautiful church wedding nor would I get to do much of the planning (the planning part I’m not sure if that’s a pro or con…). I’d also catch some grief from family members, but they’re never happy with anything I do, so I mean, damned if I do, damned if I don’t. But this option would be easiest, probably cheapest, and least stressful.
Did anyone else have to make a tough decision like this?