Post # 1
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Busy bee
Okay I know I know, the whole “Adults only reception” ordeal is annoying, to figure out what to put or if its tacky to put anything, if we should just use word of mouth, but honestly I don’t have time to call 230 guests and make sure they know no kids are allowed…
I am debating between putting “Adults Only Reception”
“Adults Reception to Follow”
“Adults Only Event”
Now the reason I can’t just put we have ___ many seats saved in your honor is because I KNOW some of my friends who have babies and want to have them at the wedding, will think…Oh well my baby doesn’t “need” a seat and still bring him/her.
Also I am afraid if I put “Adults Reception to follow” that some will think they can bring their baby to the ceremony but not the reception…
Is it really that Tacky to put something about it being an Adults event on your RSVP card? Please help me out Bee’s 🙂
Post # 3
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Busy bee
@BrideToBe14: We put “Adult Reception to Follow” but I would have no qualms with getting an invitation that said “Adult Only Event.”
The only people that would offend would be the kind of people who are always looking for a reason to be offended by something (IE Drama queens)
Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
@BrideToBe14: I have never been to an adult-only reception, so I don’t know how it’s normally done…. but I think if you’re going to do it you would put “Adult Reception to follow” no “s”.
Saying “Adults only” or “no children” seems too negative to me.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
@FleeSircus: Thanks so much for your input:)
Post # 6
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Blushing bee
I don’t think it’s tacky at all. We had some friends that put on their wedding website “Because we also love your kids so much, we just happen to have contact information for people who would LOVE to spend time with them” and then put the hotels babysitting service number. I thought it was cute.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
@MexiPino: Thanks so much for your advice:)
Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
We put “adult reception to follow”, but our ceremony and reception were at the same place.
I wouldn’t be offended by “adult only event” though.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
Try, “Please leave your sticky fingered bratfreaks at home, Thank you.”
Kidding! I don’t think it’s tacky at all but be prepared for someone to be offended. Like FleeSircus said, there’s always that person. My reception is at a brewery in the evening and I’m hoping that speaks for itself! 🙂
Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
The only seeing that bothers me is when thre are “exception kids” at the event. If there are absolutely no kids than I think any of those are fine.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
Ugh Im dreading having to deal with this also.
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
@BrideToBe14: In the area I live in, you just address the invite to whomever you want to come. Then if people write extras in, you have to call them (which is awkward).
I don’t have kids, so I can’t really comment on what the least offensive way is to write adults only. I would think that “Adult Reception to Follow” sounds polite.
Post # 13
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Honey bee
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We did the __ seats have been reserved thing, and made little inserts which only went in the invites that needed them- “As much as we love the little ones in our life, this is an adults only evening. If you require assistance with babysitting services in Baltimore, please contact Rebwana.” No one took me up on it, and no one gave me crap (expect for family, of course.)
I also gave my friends who are Moms a heads up.
Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
@BrideToBe14: If possible I would spread the word regarding an “adults only reception” via word of mouth. I would also consider arranging a “children only” reception or party while the reception is taking place and perhaps send out invitations to the children for separately for that.
