Post # 32
he probably wont be doing anything at the wedding but it will put a damper on your wedding why make your wedding negative; it should be hte happiest day of your life you shouldnt be concerned making other people happy; do what you feel is right; if you had kids you wouldnt have your kids around an offender, think of it that way
just say sorry, you have to retract the invitation due to unforseen circumstances and leave it at that, you are the bride, it’s your prerogative
when you invite dont ever assume that person will not make it; people go to great lengths to attend a wedding; good luck!
Post # 33
Same. Perhaps more to the point, I would be furious if I discovered that a friend had kept this information to herelf and not given me the option of deciding to withdraw my child from the wedding.
Post # 34
I agree that telling people could possibly start a very ugly mob-mentality situation. And your wedding shouldn’t be the time or place for a lynch mob if people get drunk and out of control.
Since you don’t really know him, maybe call your mom and make it clear to her that his presence is only acceptable at your wedding if he has notified all the proper authorities. (Your driving to avoid the airport comment raises some red flags). If this isn’t something he can comply with state that you’d rather he not attend.
Post # 35
@Daisydew: It looks like I read your comment wrong. Is he driving in order to not get caught at the airport. Or is him driving push up red flags for you that he is doing this to get away from authorities? I can’t tell from your comment whether he’s actually doing what you said, or if it’s an assumption. If he’s actually doing it, you can disregard my comment about it in my last post, sorry! 🙂
Post # 36
Hey all, thanks.
I am going to speak to my mom and ask her how she would feel if I uninvited him due to the fact that there will be children in the wedding and at the church and that I do not feel comfortable with him being there. Plus I don’t need to worry about it. I do not know the story of what happened – he is on the sexual predator list – it says contact with an 11 year old…that is all. What he said to my mom and what the judge and jury convicted him of are 2 different things. I googled the laws in my state and it says no sexual predators are permitted at churches, playgrounds, parks, etc. If my mom is upset I am going to tell her that the laws in my state say that he is not allowed at the church and I can’t deal with the drama. period.
Post # 37
@Daisydew Good Luck! I wish you all of the best
Post # 38
OH By The Way from wikipedia:
The term “sexual predator” is often considered distinct from “sex offender“. Many U.S. states also see these differences legally. A sexual offender is a person who has committed a sexual offense. A sexual predator is often used to refer to a person who habitually seeks out sexual situations that are deemed exploitative. However, in some states, the term “sexual predator” is applied to anyone who has been convicted of certain crimes, regardless of whether or not there is a history of similar behavior. In the state of Illinois, for instance, a person convicted of any sex crime against a minor is designated a sexual predator, no matter the nature of the crime (violent versus statutory, a young child versus a teenager, etc.), and regardless of past behavior. This has led to criticism that the term is being misused, or overused, and thus has lost its original meaning and effectiveness.