A COUPLE DIFFERENT QUESTIONS/THOUGHTS

posted 6 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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1031 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

You won’t be able to book anything until you have set a date. Once you have set a date and start booking things, you are engaged, even if you don’t have the ring.

I’m doing a small backyard wedding – no DJ, no formal cake, no wedding planner. I have found it very easy and quick to plan by myself and it has not taken long at all to get everything organized.

I have no advice on the nails because that isn’t something that would worry me.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

ladama :  I personally would not feel comfortable putting down deposits or booking anything without being “formally” engaged, but I have seen several bees post about doing that and it worked out for them. So I think you just need to talk that one over with your partner and decide what to do together. 

As far as nails go, I always have mine done so it wasn’t even something I thought about. If you’re concerned about having your nails done in the first pic why don;t you just start doing them from here on out? You could do them yourself if you don’t want to pay for it 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

You could easily plan an event like you describe in 6 months or less.  It just depends on how important certain things are to you.  Do you have your heart set on a specific date or venue?  Then you might want to discuss booking those things earlier.  If not, then you will be able to find something.  

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

And as for the nail situation.  If you want it to be a surprise, then I would suggest getting your nails done every week so that you are ready.  Or just take a photo after the fact and post it.  

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

ladama :  Run the numbers on rentals for a backyard event–that was my original plan for my previous wedding for 50ish people and with tent, tables, chairs, linens, dishes, glasses, flatware, etc. it was less costly for us to have the wedding at a very, very nice venue. And a lot less stressful, too!!

Post # 9
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

It really depends on where you live. In my country you wouldn’t need to book everything so much before, but in my husbands country and in the city we live, we started to book the venue and catering 9 months in advance and everyone was like this is really late. Because of the weather here from march to may is like a wedding season. And first we thought we would marry in january, but then we saw that we wouldn’t be able to have all the money by then. And the dress as well: I bought my dress in September 18 and my wedding was march 19. And the shops were like: you have to decide now or they won’t be in on time.

Sooo, I would get officially engaged first and then start to book things. Maybe you could already start to ask about venue prices or catering prices etc., so you can picture the costs a bit more.

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