Post # 1
SO and I went ring shopping this past weekend. He said that there will be a lot of research that goes into it bc he wants to make sure its a good ring for me. We are planning to go ring shopping some more and have tentatively planned to have the wedding around this time next year. He wants to propose shortly after we find the ring.
NEXT YEAR. lol
We were thinking a Destination Wedding, but are leaning towards a ceremony and a nice little family outdoor wedding with food and desserts, but nothing to extravagent. We dont want to do wedding planners, and i have a few professional photographer friends that would do the wedding photograpy/videography for free (im not concerned about quallity because both of them take photos and videos of famous people/artists).
We wont do a DJ or anything like that. We were thinking more like speakiers and have a playlist off spotify, and ppl can put what music they want. If we do decide on a DJ, my uncle is one.
Cake wise, we may do a nice professional cake, but my aunt does beautiful cakes/pastries and they are to die for!
So really I would just need to worry about:
-Venue (if its outdoors and not in a backyard)
-Dress (I dont want a uper formal one)
-Food (might do some good barbacoa, or birria, or something really authentic and yummy!)
SO MY QUESTION: bc the unofficial wedding is a year from now (we both made that decision), and we’re still ring shopping, should we start planning the wedding and bookings even if it may be a small wedding?
Also: nails. I hardly ever do them, but think they would be nice when i show fam/friends. idk.
What did you guys do?
Post # 2
You won’t be able to book anything until you have set a date. Once you have set a date and start booking things, you are engaged, even if you don’t have the ring.
I’m doing a small backyard wedding – no DJ, no formal cake, no wedding planner. I have found it very easy and quick to plan by myself and it has not taken long at all to get everything organized.
I have no advice on the nails because that isn’t something that would worry me.
Post # 3
ladama : I personally would not feel comfortable putting down deposits or booking anything without being “formally” engaged, but I have seen several bees post about doing that and it worked out for them. So I think you just need to talk that one over with your partner and decide what to do together.
As far as nails go, I always have mine done so it wasn’t even something I thought about. If you’re concerned about having your nails done in the first pic why don;t you just start doing them from here on out? You could do them yourself if you don’t want to pay for it
Post # 4
blushingbee2019 : yeah i know we wont be able to book anything, im thinking maybe I should tell SO we should start? Given timeline? I know smaller weddings/parties don’t require as much or far back planning, but I feel like SO has no clue on needing to possibly put things together by the end of this year. AND what if we decide on soemthing bigger, then we will need to a lot ourselves the time to plan it in advance. Yeah, nails dont worry me too much, but i guess bc its a trend to show pics with nails, etc.
yeah we havent put down deposits and havent planned to yet, we just set a tentative time of year. I prolly would be just as uncomfortable with it as well. We are moving by next fall/winter so we want to get married right before that, so we can own the home as a married couple.
Post # 5
You could easily plan an event like you describe in 6 months or less. It just depends on how important certain things are to you. Do you have your heart set on a specific date or venue? Then you might want to discuss booking those things earlier. If not, then you will be able to find something.
Post # 6
And as for the nail situation. If you want it to be a surprise, then I would suggest getting your nails done every week so that you are ready. Or just take a photo after the fact and post it.
Post # 7
ladama : Run the numbers on rentals for a backyard event–that was my original plan for my previous wedding for 50ish people and with tent, tables, chairs, linens, dishes, glasses, flatware, etc. it was less costly for us to have the wedding at a very, very nice venue. And a lot less stressful, too!!
Post # 8
beethree : thats defintiely a good viewpoint! didnt think too much into the fact that some venues provide most of that already. Will do, thank you 🙂
Post # 9
It really depends on where you live. In my country you wouldn’t need to book everything so much before, but in my husbands country and in the city we live, we started to book the venue and catering 9 months in advance and everyone was like this is really late. Because of the weather here from march to may is like a wedding season. And first we thought we would marry in january, but then we saw that we wouldn’t be able to have all the money by then. And the dress as well: I bought my dress in September 18 and my wedding was march 19. And the shops were like: you have to decide now or they won’t be in on time.
Sooo, I would get officially engaged first and then start to book things. Maybe you could already start to ask about venue prices or catering prices etc., so you can picture the costs a bit more.