Post # 1
I’m 6w5d today. We heard the heartbeat yesterday. My parents want to announce and keep asking if they can…should I let them just announce? or should I wait till I hear the heartbeat again at my 9w appointment?
Second question, is buying a doppler worth it? Does it hurt the baby if you use it every other day? I’m a worrier and I think it would be good to buy one.
Post # 3
@figgnewton: Personally, I’d wait to announce until at least 9 weeks, preferably 12. We didn’t truly announce until 20 weeks (although family and many friends knew by then).
Here’s a chart with miscarriage rates: http://www.pregnancycharts.org/miscarriage.php
As for the doppler, I had one. I didn’t use it every day, there seems to be conflicting info. And I have to say, while it sometimes made me feel much better, early on, it’s tricky to find the heartbeat, and it made me anxious just as often as it made me feel better. Something to consider if you think it might make you more nervous.
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Personally I would wait until the 12 week mark because I wouldn’t want to have to re-contact all of those people to inform them of a miscarriage and you are not really considered in the clear until then. It just reminds me of when my cousin and his wife announced at Christmas and miscarried a week later. It was devastating for them and weird for the family because we really didn’t know what to say or how to act around them.
No comment on the doppler.
Post # 5
I’m sure your parents were just as excited as mine were, they found out the DAY I peed on the stick haha..They were at my house during Hurricane Sandy (bad storm on the east coast) because they had lost power, and I found out then, so I couldn’t keep it from them.. Anyway, my parents were SOO eager to announce, but I made them wait until 12 weeks, and didn’t make it facebook official until 16 weeks. My reasons for not annoucing earlier is that I had some scares until about 10 weeks with spotting and cramping, and I was just too nervous to let them do it.
As far as a doppler goes, you really will get mixed opinions on getting one. My OB says not to get it, because she says its easy to want to use it ALL THE TIME..there is not enough research to prove that its BAD to use all the time..but still she didn’t want me to take the chance.
I was just like you, I worried (and still worry about some things), however, now I’m almost 19 weeks and I can feel the baby move here and there so that comforts me. Try to stick it out without getting one, if you can =)
Post # 6
Wait until the 12 week mark and I personally would not purchase a doppler. They are not worth the cost and it will make you worry more if you can’t find the heartbeat yourself.
Post # 7
@figgnewton: We personally decided not to tell a soul until 12 weeks. We have been TTC for quite a while, I want to make sure when we finally get our BFP it is a sticky baby. Nothing to suggest on the doppler since I have never been pregnant.
Post # 8
I don’t know anything about the dopplers, but it seems like a bit of a waste of money to me. Getting to hear it at the ultrasounds/dr’s appointments was good enough for me.
We kept it fairly quiet until 8 weeks, and then kept it to close family and best friends. Now at 15 weeks, it’s still not common knowledge, and definitely not on facebook.
Post # 9
I agree with PP with waiting to announce. Although I’m sure your family is super excited, it’s still really early. If you hear a hb around 10 weeks then the risk drops pretty low, then drops again at 12 weeks and continues to drop each week.
I personally wouldn’t get a Doppler – it may make you worry more. Also, you’re more than likely not going to be able to find the heartbeat with a Doppler until at least 10 weeks, sometimes it can be more like 12 weeks. The heartbeat you heard at the doctors office was through the ultrasound machine.
Post # 10
Wait until 12 weeks at least
I never got a doppler….Some nurses even seem to have trouble finding the heartbeat at first with that thing, so I think it might freak you out.
Post # 11
Even good nurses/techs who are used to finding heart beats can have issues with the doppler, to me it wouldn’t be worth the stress of “omg I can’t find the heart beat!!” On a daily basis. I also would not announce to anyone you would have a hard time “un-announcing” to if something were ton go wrong.
Post # 12
As far as the dopplers, there is conflicting info. I can tell you from personal experience that my LO HATES them. He always moves away from it or kicks at it. I guess it is noisy to him? I don’t think I’d want to expose him to the stress of it every day or every other day.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I would definitely wait for the second trimester at 12 or 13 weeks. It’s still really early. You’re 6 weeks along… that means the embryo is onl about 4 weeks old at most.
Post # 14
We waited to tell everyone in till I was 8weeks and we did buy a doppler and it worked great!!! (Just remember sometimes you can’t find the heartbeat…Just dont freak yourself out!!!)
Post # 15
I would wait until 12 weeks to announce, and even then – its your news to announce, not your parents.
I would not buy a doppler. For one, its difficult to find a baby’s heartbeat with a doppler before you’re in your second trimester, and secondly, its not supposed to be good for the baby to use one all the time. My OB feels very strongly about NOT using a doppler at home. I work in an OBGYN hospital in the emergency room and one of the number one reasons people come in is because they can’t find their baby’s heartbeat on their at-home doppler. Its maddening.
Post # 16
I would wait until at least the 9-week appointment.
I wouldn’t purchase a doppler. My mom’s a nurse and brought one home to use on me one night (this was when I was like 22 weeks) and we STILL couldn’t find the heartbeat, even though I could FEEL him moving around in there. If you’re not great at it, it’ll drive you crazy.