Post # 1
We are planning a late wedding (ceremony at 7ish). We thought this was late for a heavy dinner, so I thought we should go with hors d’oeuvres instead. We are also planning on having an awesome dessert/candy buffet as well. (i’m an assistant pastry chef so the family will expect awesome desserts!) The only problem is I don’t know how many per person. I’ve been reasearching on the internet and on weddingbee and there seems to be a lot of conflicting information.
Some sites suggest 15 per person. I know I could never eat that many especially at 8pm. Also there will be a lot of kids, so should I keep that in mind and calculate a few less per kid?
Also, is it better to have a bigger variety, or more per hors o’oeuvres?
Ex: chose 5 different ones @ 100 each
or chose 10 different ones @ 50 each
(that’s just purely an example of numbers. not how many I’m thinking I will actually need).
We are still working on out guest lists, but I’m hoping to have around 130 people on the A-list.
Can anyone who has had a similar wedding (as far as food) tell me how you worked it out and if it was successful? or if it wasn’t successful, tell me what you wish you would have done instead?
Post # 4
i would make sure you have 1 of each item for each adult. are you using a caterer? they can help you figure out the numbers. also, i would prefer more variety!
Post # 5
Personally, I’d be happy with 2 pieces of about 5 or so different appetizers. FYI – I normally eat dinner around 7pm and would not plan to eat prior to the 7pm wedding (it would be waaaay to early for me).
Post # 6
I’ve been a wedding coordinator at resorts for years, I would suggest no more than 5 for passed items. Will you have any stationed items as well?
A cheese and cracker or veggie display plus 5 types of passed items is great for 130ish people, and I would suggest doing displays for 75 or 100 (these are sometimes charged by person or by a set number display) and count 3 items per person. Include kids as well. They’ll have average everyone else out, and some kids will take stuff to try.
This is a safe bet… especially with a big dessert buffet. (I used to be an asst pastry chef, too and am trying to figure out what I’ll serve our guests for that!) Will that be available the entire time? That will help keep the number of appetizers down as well.
You could go to 2 per person, but you know your crowd. For my friends and family, I would go up to 5. They’re eaters 🙂
Post # 7
I got some info on this from a caterer, because my ceremony is at 7 as well and we are going to do an hors d’oeuvre reception.
They said its better to go for fewer items with more of it instead of a big variety. They said 3-5 different things is a good range.
As far as per person goes, they said plan on 2-3 pieces of each item for women and 3-5 of each item for men. Another wedding show I watched said that you should plan on 7-8 pieces of food per person for hors doervres, but I am not sure if they were referring to a before meal thing, or if that was meant to be the “main course”