(Closed) A decline with no handwritten note

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I guess I’m bad but if I were to decline I don’t usually write a note. I know when my brother and Future Sister-In-Law got married most people didn’t write a note when they declined.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

Actually, I had no idea people wrote notes on the RSVP cards until recently.  I’ve RSVPed for lots of weddings and accepted or declined and didn’t write anything at all.  I wouldn’t get too upset about it.  Perhaps he just did not know he should have written a note on the RSVP card. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

we’ve had a lot, with no explanation. people just fill in the blanks, and unless you left one for why they wouldn’t make it, they probably won’t fill it in 🙁

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Only one couple who regretted our wedding (out of 4) wrote a note on the regret. It was my cousin though, and their baby is due the day before our wedding so she just wanted to explain that. Everyone else were friends, and they didn’t write anything on their regrets.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Only one couple who regretted our wedding (out of 4) wrote a note on the regret. It was my cousin though, and their baby is due the day before our wedding so she just wanted to explain that. Everyone else were friends, and they didn’t write anything on their regrets.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Isn’t that why you offer a fill in the blank option? It usually precludes a hand-written response or else the entire RSVP should just be a blank note. I am sorry, but I have to go with over-sensitive on this. It would have been polite for him to write something personal, but to be offended because you expected without it is a little much. Don’t let it affect your friendship with this person! There are too many other happy things to focus on. 🙂

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, we’ve only gotten 2 declines so far, both for valid reasons.  They didn’t send a note but they told us they wouldn’t be able to attend and why.  I agree that a guest who declines should give you some kind of reason.  But I guess they don’t owe that to us, it’d just be nice.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ah, sorry!  Double post.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Most of our guests who declined didn’t give us a reason why

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well, I hate to say this but, he’s a guy.  I’m not sure if guys would think of writing a quick note.  My male cousin declined and didn’t do a note or anything.  We aren’t close but I was expecting a little something more.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu

i’ve had quite a few declines without notes too, even from my grandma! don’t feel bad!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It wasn’t until recently that I thought writing notes on RSVP cards regardless of response was cute and fun! So on all previous RSVP I just simply marked the applicable box and mailed it back.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We did RSVPs online, so we didn’t get any notes at all, unless guests wrote in our online guestbook.  I don’t think notes are required or necessarily expected, so I wouldn’t be hurt by that at all.  Our friends don’t really owe us an explanation of their decisions, I don’t think.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had no idea that people put notes at all on RSVP cards until I started planning my wedding. I haven’t sent invites yet, so I’ve not gotten any declines myself — while I’m sure it stings to get no’s without a note (even from people you didn’t expect to come), I wouldn’t take it personally. Your friend probably has no idea that people put notes on RSVP cards outside of what’s required.

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