(Closed) A different kind of waiting..

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

I’d recommend setting it early — you might be able to lock vendors in for this year’s rates and save money!

Post # 4
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I agree with bruschetta. I picked a date that was 18 months away. I was able to book vendors at lower prices, and guarantee that I got exactly the vendors that I wanted. Plus, it allows you time to budget and save the way you need to, instead of guessing at how much you are spending.

Post # 5
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well congrats on your engagement!!!!!!

I understand your need for a date and your frustrations about a budget! My FH and I (not fiance – still waiting for the ring but thats a whole other post) were having the same problem but we really wanted to get married next year! So we did all and I mean ALL the planning up front! We got a bunch of quotes from a bunch of vendors to see how much “realistically” our wedding would cost! Once we decided on what we wanted and who we would go with we talked with our families to see if it was doable! And as soon as our family told us how much they would contribute we looked at our finances could handle to wedding and it could! And planning from here is easy because everything is planned and budgeted!

We have already booked the reception venue and the photographer (because dates were getting booked up) – YAY!

And now if I could only get the ring!

Good Luck!!!!!!!!!

Post # 6
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m October 2010, too, and we have all of our vendors except our florist lined up.  I don’t think it hurts to start planning early.

Post # 7
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t think it’s too early to start setting dates and vendors. Like Miss Bruschetta suggested, you may be able to lock in current rates and save some money.

Post # 8
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

agreed that you should book early …ive been having dreams (aka nightmares) about not having a venue booked yet for next july…i feel like every minute that passes someone is gonna steal our date!!! and we’ve only been engaged for 10 days! lol.

Post # 9
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yup, booking early is good! We had a 13-month engagement though and it worked out great!

Plus once you book a few of the biggees, you have time to REALLY think about photographers and flowers and envision things w/o the pressure of actually putting down deposits.

Then you can enjoy the engagement-mooon! no planning, all bliss and fun!

Post # 11
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

This is going to be very similar to Future Mrs Martin: just plan it out all up front.  Fiance & I did the same…very similar situation in which we weren’t sure we could afford our dream wedding, but once you visit with the site (and in person make sure that you’re happy with the place & their people), get the 2010 & 2011 quotes, meet with a couple vendors (also a nice preliminary opportunity to see if you even like them) & get THEIR 2010 & 2011 quotes, plus decide your guest list & figure out how much it will cost per person, you’ve got pretty much the bulk of your dream wedding budget.  Then sit down with Fiance & figure out your individual revenue per month (summed to 2010 & then 2011) + what you’re willing to spend from savings (if anything).  If that’s not enough to meet your dream wedding budget, then pull in your dad & tell him the amount you need (or are comfortable asking for) & see if he’s more comfortable delivering that amount by 2010 & 2011. 

We did all that (skip the asking parents part since that’s not an option we’re willing to consider) & figured that, if we save an extra $200 a month (putting all savings towards the wedding & not house or retirement) until our dream date, we can afford our dream wedding all on our own. At present (two months into the 12 month saving process), we’re actually a few hundred ahead of schedule…so we’ve booked our site, officiant, & wedding planner for our dream date! 

Sorry this is so long, but I hope it helps!

Post # 12
950 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry, just to clarify, we’re not putting all our savings presently saved up towards the wedding (in fact not touching a dime of it).  We’re just not going to be adding to our savings for the next 10 months since all monthly incoming will go towards the wedding.

Post # 13
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception

Oh, I feel ya on date-setting anxiety. We want to book a particular chapel in Pittsburgh–Heinz Chapel, it’s affiliated with our alma mater (University of Pittsburgh). The competition for this chapel is stiff–you can only start booking during the month of your wedding, one year beforehand. So, we want to get married in October 2010 as well (month twins! and actually, almost-hometown twins–I’m from Corning NY!), but we can’t book until October 1st of this year. I’ve heard horror stories about all the slots in your desired month booking within fifteen minutes of the start of the business day. So, given the fact that this will basically give me nightmares every night from now until October 2nd, I would recommend you book whatever, whenever, to avoid any stress!

Post # 14
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I agree with bruschetta — we are having a summer 2011 wedding but one the venues we looked at is offering us the 2009 rates if we book this year. They guaranteed the rates will rise in the next two years.

For us, even though we knew we wouldn’t get married till after I finish grad school, it was super exciting to have chosen a date. And the nice thing is that, two years out, you have your choice of dates, rather than venues choosing your date based upon what is available.

Also having an exact date may help you in your saving. For example, FH and I just calculated how much we need to save per month between now and the wedding to reach our $$ goal.

You can do it!

Post # 16
407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

a longer wait ensures you time to complete DIY projects, if you are wanting to DIY. I certainly am trying to take advantage of that! Got engaged in November 2008 and set the date for June 2010. Best thing ever. No shotgun-and-we’re-off feeling like we have to tie everything down immediately. 

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