(Closed) A Disaster Sense of Style is going to ruin my wedding!

posted 10 years ago in Dress
Post # 107
29 posts
  • Wedding: December 2013

Wow. I know I shouldn’t be judgemental, and I am totally for brides doing what they want on their day… BUT it does pain me to think of how much money you are spending on three designer dresses!!!!!!! Even if you can afford it, surely you could use that money for something more worthwhile…. or give it to someone who really needs it. 

Post # 108
274 posts
Helper bee

@shunduh:  I love that Vera Wang dress. I personally would not shorten it for myself (other than what’s necessary as I’m only 5 feet tall). But I’m interested in seeing how it looks with your combat boots!

Post # 109
4913 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Beckster329:  ahahahha neither did i!!

Please don’t cut the dresses and please reconsider the shoes.  You can have unique heels that aren’t skinny heels where you’ll fall without going with super casual shoes that just don’t match. 

Post # 110
1490 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Any updates on your attire, OP?

I read your newest post and can kind of see the direction you’re going in for your wedding.   Why not a short white dress for pre-ceremony cocktails (I’m thinking Herve Ledger or something sexy like that), all of look #2- don’t change a thing, and possibly the Vera Wang White with the cat boots for the reception….although I think you’d be more comfortable in your ceremony dress, especially since you’re having a ‘no shoes’ rule.

The Vera Wang White dress is very pretty but not as laid back as your wedding seems to be.

Post # 112
448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think your new dresses are perfect! I love them both! And they flow much better with the CP dress.  🙂

Post # 113
238 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i dont understand why anyone would wear big grey combat boots on their wedding day, and with such a floaty, feminine dress. but then, im no fashionista, so what do i know?

Post # 114
918 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I try to be tactful most of the time, but this time, I just can’t.  That first dress is gorgeous and you’re going to wreck it.  The cat shoes are horrendous, as are the boots.  Why not just get a cute pair of shoes and wear dress #1.  You can wear stuff in the other styles every other day of the year…the whole thing is just…I mean, if you want to attract attenton, that’s one way to do it.

Post # 115
1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Not a fan of your idea, first you want to destroy 3 beautiful dresses to all sit above the knee, and second your shoe choices are hideous and don’t go with the dresses.

Post # 116
96 posts
Worker bee

To whoever told the OP that they should not be spending their money on dresses and should give it to people in need… that’s really rude and none of their business. Same goes for the person who said that is someone doesn’t wear something “dignified” on their wedding day they don’t “respect” themselves. Sheesh!

It sounds like a lot of people just really can’t wrap their heads around non-traditional wedding attire and feel this need to put everyone into the same, cookie cutter box.

I’m glad you found dresses that you love and that you’re following your sense of style and going barefoot. I admire your bravery in following YOUR heart on what is the most imporant day of YOUR life.


(oh… and PLEASE post pics of your wedding! I’m super curious to see how it turned out!)

Post # 117
1612 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I wouldn’t shorten any of those dresses.

Or wear any of those shoes…

but its your wedding!

Post # 118
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

By all means have three dresses if you want them. Heck, have ten if you feel like it. But you cannot chop up those dresses and I think it’s a shame that you want to sell them now because that first Vera dress is so beautiful and it would suit anyone. Having said that the new dresses you chose are gorgeous too. But don’t cut them up!!


I’m all for edgy, different shoes to give yourself a quirky twist, but it is STILL a WEDDING. Not to mention it’s YOUR wedding. I’d be so annoyed if someone turned up in boots like that to what is actually a memorable and VERY IMPORTANT day. I think it’s really disrespectful to wear something so casual and I can’t condone the bride (or anyone else) wearing boots like that to a wedding. if you don’t like heels you can get beautiful flat shoes (flip flop style or sandals or whatever) but please remember this is your wedding day and it should be taken seriously and your appearance should (in my opinion) reflect the importance of the day. I don’t think you have a disaster sense of style at all, the dresses you picked are lovely, but you asked for opinions..that’s mine.

Post # 119
3107 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have to know how this turned out…..any updates?

Post # 120
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

None of the shoes go, and why exactly do you feel that you need three dresses? 

Post # 121
751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@KatNYC2011:  Summed up everything I wanted to say..


Not a fan of shortening the dresses… The Vera Wang will look like a tutu, and I don’t think a dropped waist dress will look good short. Plus, you’ll barely be covered… 5 inches above the knee may be okay for going out to a club, but your wedding..? Plus the ceremony dress doesn’t look compatible at ALL with foot jewelry…

I like the idea that you’d want to include your favorite shoes at some point in your day, but given that they’re platform cat shoes….. maybe wearing them under a LONG dress that hides them a bit..? And leave them as a secret sort of hidden personal touch?

Also… I have a hard time picturing how it will work with three completely totally different dresses with totally different looks/feels… What is the overall “theme” or feeling of your wedding?


What about finding a shoe that goes well with all three..? The shoe could be the piece that ties it all together…. Like the pink wedges that

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@KatNYC2011:  posted above… They’re lovely, and could go with all of your choices beautifully.


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