Post # 1
My DH and I recently got married and his older sister asked via text message a couple months ago if we wanted a silver pitcher for a wedding gift. I told my Fiance at the time no, we don’t have room for that and I didn’t want it.
As the gift, we got the silver pitcher. Mind you, it is used, has water stains all over it, and inside has crumbly old dust balls. She didn’t even have the courtesy to wash it! And another platter gift that I haven’t even looked at yet as I know I don’t want it.
Why would someone gift this? We didn’t have a registry, instead we had a honeyfund where people could have donated money. My DH said she is super cheap and would send him soap for Christmas. His sister and brother in law both have masters degrees and doing very well!! I would have been happier with nothing or $25 donation to the honeyfund.
Another peeve is that this cheap couple have a teenage son who is about to start college in a year and wants to go into computer science. The parents don’t want him to choose that major so they won’t pay for a new laptop for him. His current one broke. So yesterday my DH told me he just spent $2,000 to buy him a laptop. Not upset my DH bought the laptop since that is a very sweet and generous thing to do, but WTF can’t his parents buy it?!?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle
This doesn’t sound like new behavior from her, so there’s no use in making waves about it. Say thanks and be done with it.
Post # 3
….yeah, I really would take this down. Compaining about gifts/how other people spend their money doesn’t tend to go over well.
Post # 4
When someone gifts you something the appropriate thing to do is accept it gracitiously. I hope you sent a thank you card. If you don’t want either the pitcher or the platter then donate it.
Also maybe you should stop being so judgemental about their spending habits. How they wish to spend their money is absolutely none of your business.
And really it just sounds to me like you are mainly pissed that they didn’t give you money for your honeymoon. So just because you didn’t get the gift you wanted doesn’t give you the right to be so damn rude about the gift you did get.
Finally people aren’t donating you money. They are gifting you money. You are not a charity and a honeymoon is certainly something that you shouldn’t be having a fundraiser for.
Post # 5
ahhhhhhgreeed….. when i read the title i thought it would be like a dead puppy in a box or something.
just throw it in a closet somewhere & move on. gifting IS optional. cheap people will never change.
Post # 6
With your crummy attitude, you’re lucky she gave you a gift at all.
Post # 7
What a be-otch. Giving you something she thought you would like and didn’t clean it first so it would meet your standards? Rude.
lol just gift it to charity or something! No need to make a fuss over stuff you didn’t even want!
Post # 8
if it’s real solve just wash it and pawn it off. This is also why you should have had a registry. I know a lot of people who don’t like giving money. In my family it’s even considered rude. Like no thought was put in it at all. Sorry but at least they gave you something.
Post # 9
Maybe that is why she was gifted what she was.
Post # 10
I would be surprised if you get a load of people on your side on this one. Yes, maybe not as great gift but I think saying is is disgusting is a bit far. Essentially calling someone cheap (even if it is true) is never going to put you in a good light. Donate the gift to charity and move on.
Post # 11
If it’s silver, sell it. You will likely at least get the $25 “donation” that you would have preferred. You cant control what people give you as gifts.
Post # 12
take the high road, send her a thank you card and get over it
NO WHERE does it say that you are obligated to recieve a gift for your wedding… and just because your DH had the means to spent 2k on a computer out of the kindness of his heart (wtf, do they really cost that much? where do you live :|) does it mean that they have to get you a gift because you chose to get married
side note: honeymoon fund = tacky
Post # 13
Unfortunately rant-y, opinion-y type posts don’t go over very well on this website. You will end up being personally attacked.
Sorry that you received such a crappy gift! 🙁
… I would just donate it and move on, seems this woman just likes to be cheap or push people’s buttons.
Post # 14
Based on your attitude, I’m pretty sure this was on purpose.
Post # 15
wow, she should be on the show EXTREME Cheap skates.