(Closed) A dying wish and naming your baby…

posted 8 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Would you name your child after someone because it was their last wish?
    Yes, that's the right thing to do : (4 votes)
    2 %
    No, that's creepy : (33 votes)
    18 %
    It depends on the name...if it's normal, yes, if it's strange or unpopular, no : (32 votes)
    17 %
    It depends on the person...if I loved them, yes, if I kinda liked them, no or maybe : (103 votes)
    55 %
    Other (and I'll comment below) : (16 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I say it depends, but not on the popularity of the name.  It depends on the person. Is it a relative, someone you are close to, or just someone you know.  I really do hope this is a hypothetical.  I cant imagine asking someone to name their kid after me…its their decision what the name is, not yours! 🙂

    Post # 4
    1518 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    If i like the name and the person yes. if i don’t like the name then maybe it would a middle name or a name that is similar. If i don’t like the person than no! 

    Post # 5
    3295 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i would never promise to name my child something that i did not love or that was odd. i think if someone was on their deathbed asking me to… i would say sure to comfort them. which sounds horrible…. and prolly is…. but o well.

    Post # 7
    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t know who would ask this of anyone, that is my confusion.  I may name my child after someone I cared dearly for but it would be offputting if they asked or told me to name my child after them.

    Post # 8
    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    I can’t imagine that happening either, doesn’t a dying person have more important things to worry about?

    If it was a person I was close to and wanted to honour, I would probably use the name as a middle name. Although I am someone who doesn’t like being told what to do, so maybe I wouldn’t, just to prove a point. Like others I’d probably agree in the heat of the moment whether I liked the person or not, just to avoid an awkward death bed conversation about how much I liked them.

    Post # 9
    447 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    It would depend on my relationship with the person. I don’t have an issue with giving a child the name of a loved one, but it would have to be a very special person. Perhaps if I did not like the name, I would find something similiar or shorter that I did.

    Yuuki’s middle name is the name of my husband’s biological mom. She died when he was 7, and from what I hear, she was a wonderful woman I would have loved to meet. We’ve even discussed other relatives names for if we were to have 3 girls (He chose the first girl’s name. I have pick of the second girl’s name, and we agreed on a third should it happen).

    Post # 10
    2588 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I would be weirded out, personally, unless it was someone we knew VERY well (like one of our parents/grandparents). But then, we’re not planning on having kids so I can’t see that situation arising, haha.

    Post # 11
    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Maybe a middle name if I LOVED the person. Otherwise I really don’t think they’ll care once their dead.

    Post # 12
    563 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    It’s a Jewish custom that you can name a baby after someone by choosing a name that starts with the same letter as their name.  This gives you a lot more flexibility in terms of naming your child after someone you care a great deal about, even if you don’t love their name.  

    Post # 13
    756 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    It depends on the person and the name. If it were a close relative or friend, and if I liked his or her name, I would probably do it. But I wouldn’t give a child a name I hated just to make someone else happy.

    Post # 14
    424 posts
    Helper bee

    It depends on the person.  If it was a very close relative, I’d consider it.  In the Jewish religion, we usually use the first initial and find a name we like from that…so I’m going to use C or M for my grandparents.  I have lots of M names I like, not so many C’s but I will find one

    Post # 15
    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    This may be selfish but if it wasn’t a name I loved, no way.  I love my grandma that passed away but her name was Phyllis.  I hope I can maybe come up with a way to still name a child after her and honor her, but it won’t be Phyllis.  It also would have to do with the closeness of the person. 

    Post # 16
    108 posts
    Blushing bee

    This is slightly off-topic but I personally think it’s kind of selfish for someone to request you name a child after them as a dying wish. It’s sort of self-important and puts a ton of unfair pressure on people. Yes, I realize the question is merely hypothetical…

    I’d consider a middle name if I or my hubbs was close to the person – but I can’t imagine this happening, because I don’t think we know anyone who would be inclined to make such a request.

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