MemberI wouldn’t. I don’t find it creepy, I just wouldn’t. I’m the type that would probably absolutely not consider it (even if it was a contender before the request) because it’s such an absurd thing to ask someone!
Memberit would depend on the name AND the person to me.
I’m not going to stick my daughter with a name like Edna, no matter how much I love my grandma (no, Edna isn’t my g’ma’s real name, but she does have a definite old lady name – no offense intended to any Ednas out there). I’m also not going to name my child after some random relative.
MemberI think it would really depend on the person, because I don’t feel like a person who would want that to be their last wish would be a person that I wouldn’t want to honor with naming a child after them. So I probably would, almost everyone in my family has a middle name that is in honor of an older relative so it’s not really that odd to me, but nobody has ever requested that a child be named after them. My little sisters middle name was picked right after my great aunt lost a child in honor of her.
MemberDepends on so many things: who the person is, what the name is, etc. And it may end up being a middle name.
MemberI think it would be more likely that the person would ask you to name the child after someone else as their dying wish, like their spouse. Still, I am not sure I would do it! Maybe as a middle name.
MemberI think its super selfish to ask anyone else to name their child after you! (especially on your deathbed…what a guilt-trip!)
I might say I would to make their last moments better, but I wouldn’t do it, unless we already had liked that name for our child.
MemberName and person matter. I’m torn about naming my son Charlie (well, Charles, but definitely using the nickname Charlie.) It’s the name of an old friend who died when I was 13, at the age of 102 – he’d served in both world wars, and befriended me when I was six. Really cool guy. However, it’s also the name of my psycho ex (Charles). Maybe, since my guy vetoed Rebecca (my mom’s name and his sister’s name), I could use Charlotte as my back up girls’ name…
MemberFI’s grandmother (who he was really close to) asked him to name his [hypothetical] son (btw, he was single at the time–this was years before i was around) after her husband right before she died. i’m not a huge fan of the name but we have discussed that we will use an americanized version of the name as a middle name. to me, using it as a middle name is good compromise–you fulfill the promise without having to call your child a name you don’t like.
MemberThat’s pretty ballsy to even request that in the first place and rude.
I would say “We’ll see.” You aren’t saying yes and you aren’t saying on.
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MemberLOL, I’m giggling at the responses. It was just something that popped in my head, it hasn’t actually happened to us or anything. But it’s something I could see my Nana doing, and like DDW, my Nana has an old lady name. Plus my dad hates her. And my mom. And anyone else who’s ever met the crotchety woman. I could TOTALLY see her asking this, if I happened to be present on her deathbed, which thank goodness isn’t likely.
I think I would feel obligated to honor the promise if I made it, and I’d probably feel obligated to say yes if they were dying. Even if I didn’t like them. I believe in ghosts, and I’d rather have a guardian than a haunt.
In any case, I’d try to use an anagram within a name I liked already. That straddles the line a bit, but I’d feel ok with it.
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MemberI guess it would depend on how exactly they asked and how the whole situation played out. That and of course how close we were to them and the name.
MemberIf its your mother, father, best friend or someone very close to you I would do it. Otherwise they might become a middle name.
MemberI think it definitely depends on the person and what your relationship with them is. I could see using it for a middle name if you don’t really love it as a first name though.
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