(Closed) A dying wish and naming your baby…

posted 9 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Would you name your child after someone because it was their last wish?
    Yes, that's the right thing to do : (4 votes)
    2 %
    No, that's creepy : (33 votes)
    18 %
    It depends on the name...if it's normal, yes, if it's strange or unpopular, no : (32 votes)
    17 %
    It depends on the person...if I loved them, yes, if I kinda liked them, no or maybe : (103 votes)
    55 %
    Other (and I'll comment below) : (16 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I chose other – I would use it as a middle name.

    Post # 33
    Member
    759 posts
    Busy bee

    Nope, I wouldn’t do it.  Well it would depend on who it was, then maybe…  I think its selfish for someone to request something like that anyway. 

    Post # 34
    Member
    2819 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I don’t like naming children after people in general, so…probably not. : /

    Post # 35
    Member
    850 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I plan to name my child after my father, who passed away when I was 21. If I already had a name reserved, then that person would have to wait… and it would prob. have to be normal.

    Post # 36
    Member
    3482 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I would never name my child after anyone I know no matter what. I already have my mom’s middle name and can’t stand that, and my Fiance has his Dad’s first and middle name, and then a second middle name, which is the name he goes by because he doesn’t like the other two! So no, my kid gets their own unique name. Not to be mean, but I really don’t see what the dying person would get out of that anyway.

    Post # 37
    Member
    107 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Yes, if I was very close to them and my FH agrees. It’s not only my decision, so I chose ‘other’.

    Post # 38
    Member
    403 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    If I didn’t like the name very much, it would be a middle name.

    Post # 39
    Member
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If there’s a miracle and we have a daughter, we actually will be naming her after both my husband’s grandmother and great aunt, who were both much loved and idolized by all of the family. There was no requests for this, but we know it will thrill everyone, especially since both women have passed. It helps that I love both names.

    As far as the actual question, I can’t think of anyone who would ask this of us, at least not anyone close to us, which is the only circumstance under which I can even begin to imagine agreeing. It would have to be someone really close to us, and would have to be a name I could at least tolerate (and then, live PPs, I would make it a middle name). 

    Post # 40
    Member
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Depends on the name. If it’s an odd one or not one I’d have been drawn to, I might use their first OR middle as a middle name for my child.

    It would be a really odd situation, though. I actually made a pact with my brother that neither one of  us, should we marry or have kids, would repeat common names used in our family history. My brother is the 5th generation named the same name, (or a variation of)  it’s getting a bit old. In addition, my husband and I will NOT name our child something that has become too trendy, being both people with names like that. 5 kids in the class with the same name? Not gonna happen. If a name we’d consider is in the top 10 baby names that year, that cuts out the possibility of using that name.

    Post # 41
    Member
    5373 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    It definitely depends on who is asking haha. If it’s my mom, dad, brother, my grandma (we’re very close and she and my mom have the same name) or my oma (who had the same name as my opa, who passed away recently) then I would do it in a heartbeat. If it was anyone else then I would consider adding it as a middle name depending on how close we were. No matter who asked I’d probably end up saying yes and then feeling guilty about it later. I wouldn’t want to say no and bring them tons of feelings of sadness or embarassment.

    haha is it wrong that as soon as a read this question I thought of the ending of The Proposal when the grandma fakes a heartattack and then when she gets what she wants she’s all of a sudden “cured” ahaha? If the person doesn’t actually die would you still follow through on the request you agreed to?

    Post # 42
    Member
    1701 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’d make it the middle name. 

    Post # 43
    Member
    1126 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’d be turned off if someone specifically asked.  But like professorbee said, in Jewish tradition it’s common to use the same first letter.  My middle name starts with the same letter as my father’s deceased mother, my brother’s middle name is the same as my father’s deceased father’s first (his parents died before my parents had kids).  Also my cousin’s name starts with the first letter as both her deceased great-grandparents.  Etc.  I like the idea of honoring someone and giving the child a connection to a past relative, but I certainly wouldn’t feel obligated to use the name as is.

    Post # 44
    Member
    356 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Laurel Rock Farms, PA

    Depending on the person and depending on the name.  My may not use it as a first name but most likely as a middle name.  My middle name is after my great grandma and Im glad to say that every time.

    Post # 45
    Member
    1221 posts
    Bumble bee

    i have always said i will name my first son after my brother who got murdered in 2002.  although he never requested it i still am thinking about it & Darling Husband also agree’s to it. But i wonder if that would be too much? maybe thinking about at least using it for a middle name. my dad’s name is the same as my late brothers Ricky.  Love the name just dont know what other names would go with it.

    The topic ‘A dying wish and naming your baby…’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors