Post # 1
It’s been five years since I’ve lost my dad. As the years go by, each holiday, birthday, and father’s day gets a little easier… maybe not easier, but less emotional? At least until the night before. Then all of a sudden, it hits you like a ton of bricks.
Just looking for those that can commiserate.
Post # 2
HaaaveYouMetTed: its been 17 years for me. Its hard. Even though so much time past, it doesnt get easier. I was 13 when he passed away and it still feels like yesterday.
Ive been with my Darling Husband for 12 years and I love my Father-In-Law but its not the same.
Post # 3
I lost my dad 22 and a half years ago. I am feeling the same thing! It gets less emotional, and now for me I can at least have a little smile when I think of him on Father’s Day weekend now.
Post # 4
Very sorry for your loss, My dad took off .usually doesn’t bother me not even on father’s day but this year getting Married knowing I don’t have a dad to have a father daughter dance ,or have him walk me down the aisle .yeah it hurts a little .For you all I can say he still with you in your heart if you talk to him I am sure he will here you.Do you visit his grave on father’s day?
Post # 5
HaaaveYouMetTed: It’s been eight years since I lost my mom – so I do a motherless mother’s day. My dad has a SO that is WONDERFUL, so I have started to spend and celebrate her on mother’s day but it’s still not the same. I hate when people ask me what I got my mom for mother’s day and then I have to explain it….ugh. So awkward.
Post # 6
Both of my parents are dead. Normally, I’m just fine with my life, but every once in a while feelings well up and take you by surprise.
Tomorrow we are going to celebrate Father’s Day with my DH’s family.
Post # 7
Daizy914: I know what you mean! I am SO grateful for a wonderful Father-In-Law.. But definitely not the same as your own.
futuremrsm16: hugs to you!
tamara100389: I am so sorry to hear that! Unfortunately, I live about 1,000 miles away from his grave. I don’t really mind that, though. I’ve never really thought of him actually being there, you know?
weatherbug: always hate when I have to actually say, “no, he’s actually passed away.” So I know what you mean! Hugs!
julies1949: so sorry you’ve lost both of your parents! Glad you are still finding a way to celebrate though 🙂
Post # 8
I’ve lost bot my parents. April was 11 years for my mom and 7 for my dad. You’re right, it does get a little easier with time. I honestly forget when mother’s and father’s day is and people look at me crazy when I ask when it is.
However, this is the first father’s day without my grandpa who raised me and he passed away the day after I got engaged. It’s been 10 months and it doesn’t seem like it at all. I ran across the last pic I took of him earlier and almost lost it. It made me think back to the awful summer I had last year. I miss that man so much! He was pretty much my dad for 22 year so I’m sure I’ll cry some tomorrow.
Post # 9
HaaaveYouMetTed: It’s been 4 1/2 years since dad and 4 years since mom passed away. I’m still in my twenties.
Around each birthday, mother’s day, father’s day, or their anniversary, I become inexplicably grumpy, irritated, and I’m sure hard to deal with. In the beginning, I was very conscious of the “first” birthday without them, etc. Now, It is still in the back of my mind, but often it will be the day before the event and I’ll be like…okay…that must be why I’m not feeling so hot. I honestly somehow “forget” that those days pass (although I always remember).
I also tend to forget Mother’s and Father’s day now. Yesterday, Fiance was telling me about our plans for Sunday with his dad. I honestly had to be like, “for what?” I know. I try to not think about it.
Post # 10
ksn1219: I’m so glad that I’m not alone. People think I’m crazy for forgetting those two holidays. I was at Target today and was like…why are there all these sales? Oh yeah, there is that enormous sign of a dad with “Father’s Day” written on it….
Post # 11
I was adopted by a single parent mom, so legally I have no father. I don’t feel sad exactly, but it’s a weird thing to live with especially around father’s day.
I also have legal guardians since I was 17 and I considered the father to be a father figure. He passed a couple of months before our wedding and we had to change plans since he was going to walk me down the aisle. we lost him 2 years ago last Nov.
Post # 12
yup, exactly. Almost 14 years since I lost my dad, and i totally forget Father’s Day. Today my Fiance was talking about getting his dad a Dunkin donuts gift card (his favorite thing in the world) and a card and I was like “why?”. He looked at me like I was crazy and then I remembered. Of course that got in my noggin and now here it is, 4am and I can’t sleep And now I’m thinking about my dad and wishing he was here And being all sad. Comes out of nowhere sometimes. Ah well. hugs to all of us 🙂
Post # 13
HaaaveYouMetTed: it has been 9 years since my dad died. And yes I got the ton of bricks feeling too, it hurts! I try not to be grumpy but UI cant help it!
Post # 14
Yes, you are absolutely right. Fact is, it doesn’t go away. I absolutely, totally believe that he’s always very nearby though.
Post # 15
My dad has been dead 26 years now, my mom 2.5 years. The first day the Father’s Day (and in May, the Mother’s Day) cards are put out in the stores, it seems strange not to walk up and pick one out.
But I am happy that my parents are together again in heaven. It was a long time my mom was here on earth alone, and she never got over my dad being gone.
They were both very ill for a few years before death.