(Closed) A few days apart makes me feel insecure–why?? Because the wedding is close??

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You dont feel like a part of you is missing because he is not gone, you are going to spend the rest of your life with the man! It is healthy to be able to spend a few nights apart!

As to the second part, dont get too stressed.  Me and my Fiance can be the same way on the phone.  I am a person who likes to talk until the issue is settled, he likes to think about it (or so he says, I really think he hopes the issue goes away).  It sometimes causes me to follow him around until the issue is resolved, but on the phone when he doesn’t want to talk I don’t have much of an option without starting a fight, I let it go or start an arguement.  It could just be a difference in the way you guys handle issues.

Hope all goes well!

Post # 4
403 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I second that: you don’t feel like a piece of your life is missing because you know he’ll always be there! If there was a chance that you’d lose him for good for some reason and you still felt ok with it, that would be a different story!

My fiance and I are going through kind of the same type of thing lately–being short or frustrated with each other sometimes when normally we’d be fine–especially over the phone. I’ve just been attributing it to stress from the “last minute” wedding planning. Sometimes we don’t come to the feel-good resolutions that we normally do, and things are left unsaid for a short amount of time, but we usually resolve it in the next day or so. It’s normal not to always get that type of resolution, because we’re only human. As long as it’s not the pattern, you should be fine.

Good luck with your wedding!

Post # 5
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

For #1. Its completely okay for you enjoy yourself even while being away from your FH. Contrary to popular belief, you should still be able to function and enjoy life without thinking of your Fiance evey second of every day. From your post it seems as though the wedding is stressing you two out and you may need a break from FH and wedding planning. Its okay to take a few days to enjoy everything else in life, as ling as you (eventually) want to go back 😉

For #2- It really seems as though the wedding has both you and your FH on edge. Just as long as you KNOW that all of these little things are directly wedding associated, I wouldn’t worry about it. Maybe you and your FH need to plan a wedding free day for just the two of you and not talk about anything wedding related. You both need to remember that the wedding is one day!

I hope you two have a chance to relax before the wedding and I know everything will work out for the best. Don’t read too much into this 🙂


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