Post # 1
I just found out this weekend that I should expect a proposal in the next 6 months. It is important to my SO that he gets time to plan the perfect surprise. I have decided not to bother him about the already established timeline for 3 reasons.
1) The more I bring it up, the more he will become agitated and push back the date in order to truly surprise me. I am doing more harm than good.
2) This is literally the ONE THING he will get to do on his own time 😉 Once the wedding planning begins, he will have no say (jk, ofcourse)
3) This will actually be my last Christmas as a non-stressed, bride-to-be. I MUST ENJOY! I will miss all this downtime come next winter season.
We are not in charge of the situation, but we are in charge of how we choose to react to it. Yes, waiting does suck. And some of us have chosen an ultimatum. But until that ultimatum is violated, we don’t exactly have the right to stomp off do we now? Patience is truly a virtue and no one knows this better than a waiting bee. If you have given him a timeline, relax until he misses it. Then, by all means, go all out. A six month timeline will seem like an ETERNITY to me. But, I think I will vent to my girlfriends or you all instead of my SO. I am also going to hit the gym everyday and train to get back on my NBA dance team. I can’t wait!
How else are you guys passing the time? And how are ya’lls timelines looking?
Post # 3
@rupavach: Hi! new here? congrats about the update on your timeline! 6 months go by soooo fast! Think he might do it for valentine’s day?
You are so right, I loved the part of “we are in charge of how we choose to react to it”.
I just spent Christmas with my SO and although I knew there’d be no ring, there is always hope haha but even though I didn’t get a proposal I didn’t storm out or got mad, I was happy just to be with him so I totally can relate to what you said.
My bday is coming up soon so I wan to have a talk with him before the end of the year so we can talk about where we are and where we’re going, not ultimatum but just making sure we’re on the same page as far as goals, after that I’ll join the SIUP and hope for a proposal soon 🙂
Post # 4
@cherriesandcream: Yes I am! And I do hope you are correct about the six months going by fast. And maybe he will, maybe he won’t. It seems like he would want to wait closer to the end of the 6 months. We will see!
I’m glad that you were able to enjoy Christmas with your SO. e. 2 girls I know who went to college with me have lost their SO in car accidents just days before Christmas. This made me really look closely at my relationship and be grateful for the moments I spend with him, regardless of what has/will happen..
I hope he proposes to you soon! Good luck! And I need to check out the SIUP. Not sure what that is just yet but if it can help the waiting process, why not?!
I am trying not to think about a proposal every day, at least 4x a day. IDK, it just seems to come across my mind waaayy too often.
Post # 5
@rupavach: I’m so sorry about your friends 🙁 just thinking about it makes me sad, it’s such a hard thing to go through 🙁
and well the SIUP is a place where you promise not to talk about engagement/ring/marriage with your SO and/or family. I think it’d be good to join so you won’t bring it up with your SO and he pushes it even further 🙂
Thanks, I’m hoping for my bday in January but I highly doubt it, I still can dream haha
Post # 6
@rupavach: Welcome to the bee! It sounds like you already have a timeline that you’re both comfortable with. Yes, just sit back and enjoy the last 6 months (or less) of your single life!