A few friends made comments about my engagement ring.

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
9672 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Well, I wouldn’t say simple is a bad thing especially when she followed it up with “the simple solitaire look”. To me, that implies simple to be a good thing that could mean timeless and elegant and uncluttered. I could totally see myself complimenting a ring and saying something like “Oh wow! I love that its so simple!” 

At the end of the day all that matters is that you and your Fiance love your ring. There are always going to be people who don’t like it and thats okay too as long as they aren’t trying to flat out be hateful.

Post # 3
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

ritarabbit2017 :  

About the simple comment…not all of us are well spoken, and there is only so much to say about a ring. It sounds like your friend was trying to compliment you and it came out badly.

Post # 4
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Neither of those comments sound particularly rude to me TBH (unless someone actually said “Is that even big enough?”). A 1 carat solitaire is about as classic as it gets, so I wouldn’t dwell on these comments or read into them as much as you are. I genuinely don’t think most people put much thought into their commentary on someone’s ring.

Post # 5
929 posts
Busy bee

What do you feel their responses should have been?

I have a “simple solitaire” engagement ring and that in no way would have been offensive to me. I love the simplicity of solitaires. Not everyone is going to share in your taste, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I would just brush it off. As long as you love it, that is all that should matter.

Post # 6
2629 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

If these are otherwise good friends, and don’t usually say mean things, I’d give them the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes dumb things come out of my mouth that I didn’t mean to say. Consider it just an accident.

Post # 7
1619 posts
Bumble bee

I really wouldn’t be too worried about it. There are SOO many ring styles, and they’re not for everyone. As long as YOU love it, that’s all that matters. Their comments are coming from a selfish place (even if unconsciously), and they’re just reacting to if THEY had received a ring like that. It has nothing to do with you, and while it’s shortsighted, I don’t think it was mean spirited. Sounds like they are just a bit naive. Don’t sweat it!

Post # 8
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Everyone will have their opinions, and some of them might be weird. When I first got my ring, which is also coincidentially a 1 carat solitaire, I got “How did he afford such a big rock?!” and “Aw! Such a dainty little ring for your dainty little finger” over the course of a few hours.

At the end of the day, your opinion is the only one that matters.

Post # 10
11811 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Solitaires are my favorite setting, for their classic lines, their understated elegance, and their focus on the center stone with no distractions. I’m sure yours is gorgeous. 

As for the comments you got, none of us were there. Maybe the first friend misspoke and meant to say “so beautiful.” Of course, your instincts could be correct. I would have just said something like “Yes, I love that nothing distracts from the focus on the center stone” or probably better yet “thank you.” The comment about the size sounds mostly like a stupid attempt at humor. But really, who knows or cares? 

In general though, I don’t disagree with you. I mean, how difficult is it to tell someone their ring is beautiful? Complimenting an engagement ring is, or should be, an exception to the rule that if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say it at all. All engagement rings are beautiful, if for no other reason than the love and sentiment they represent.

Just say it!

Post # 11
153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I once complimented someone’s ring by bursting out how small and dainty it was – only realising as it was out of my mouth how it might have sounded. ๐Ÿ™ But it was a genuine compliment – I’d seen a pic of it on Facebook where it looked a bit gaudy and costume jewellery-esque, whereas in real life it’s really pretty and delicate.

My point is, the first comment you mentioned could easily have been a compliment that just came out wrong. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Can we see it? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
556 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

The only person your rings should matter to is you and your fiancé. You don’t wear a ring to get compliments on it. Who cares if other people think he did a good job or not? Just be happy with it! It sounds great. 

Post # 14
1328 posts
Bumble bee

Simple, big, delicate, dainty…these are all words I’ve heard people be insulted by on the bee. It’s almost not worth trying to compliment rings anymore. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 15
117 posts
Blushing bee

nahhhh dont sweat it. all that matters is that you love it. congrats on your engagement! Pictures???

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